You seem like a really nice person. I mean that. But you have a level of cognitive dissonance that makes discussions on topics where you've made up your mind pointless.
I'm trying my best to understand your point. And I like to think about these things
I've (partly) changed my mind about the influence of the ocean for example.
And I've also (partly) changed my mind about nuclear power as a possible solution to the problem of CO2.
Is CO2 exacerbating temperatures? Of course. So is every green house gas. But that doesn't mean that's what is driving it.
So that's your logic.
But I think it's a bit limited in scope.
CO2 can result from a wealth of sources: volcanic, human, ocean, methane hydrates. And it can be removed by a wealth of sources: weathering, life.
And many of these have a relationship with temperature, of course.
A burp of CO2 or methane hydrate from the ocean (from disruption of an ocean current) can be a result of a temperature change.
Life depends on temperature.
Sea level depends on temperature.
The speed of weathering depends on temperature.
Solubility of CO2 in the ocean depends on temperature.
Vertical mixing of oceans also depends on temperature.
Now... in an unstable regime like we are in (flip-flopping between glaciations) anything can be a trigger. And an ice age is even more complicated, because you also have to deal with albedo and the uneven distribution of continents (Milankovitch cycles).
But there are also important sources/ sinks that are dependent on tectonics (and not on temperature):
Volcanism, its intensity depends on processes in the earth (Siberian traps).
Volcanism also gives us a continuous influx of CO2.
Tectonics can create isolated large bodies of anoxic water (good at trapping carbon) depend on tectonic settings (see the Azolla event).
It also creates regions that subside, forming swamps where life can bury CO2 permanently.
But how does this make CO2 insignificant as a driver in climate change?
It doesn't... even if the CO2 concentrations are influenced (partly) by temperature because of a multitude of feedback events that depend on temperature, CO2 can still be a driver behind all these things.
The only way you can claim that CO2 is not a driver, is if you can make plausible that CO2 cannot act on its own.
Much like the level H2O, which is a more potent Greenhouse gas, is almost entirely dependent on the temperature of the atmosphere and of the oceans. Because H2O forms rain and is removed very quickly from the atmosphere, we can safely say that H2O is not a driver of climate.
A similar argument goes for CH4. It's more potent as a greenhouse gas, but it reacts quickly with other molecules and it's removed from the atmosphere in a few decades, so that it's not really possible to have large quantities of methane in the atmosphere at any one time.
Scientists do believe that CO2 can be a driver of climate, because there is no quick way of removing it from the atmosphere. Therefore, even if it requires hundreds of billions of tons of the stuff to get a noticeable effect, this effects is there to stay for thousands of years, until it's removed again by weathering or burial of plant material.
Even the oceans are in equilibrium with CO2 and cannot remove hundreds of billions of tons of excess quantities of CO2 from the atmosphere just like that. It takes life a very long time to absorb hundreds of billions of CO2 and to sink those to the bottom of the ocean... and only a small part of the sunken material will be buried permanently, most of it will decompose and return to the surface (which is why it takes such a very long time).
The single biggest issue I have with those that postulate CO2 as the primary driver of *temperature* is that they aren't able to explain why it hasn't been a driver in the past. It is a well established fact that CO2 increases after temperatures rise.
The only thing that "proves" that is the ice-core data from the Antarctica and Greenland.
Every other shred of evidence (which have much better time-resolution) and our general knowledge of physical processes proves otherwise.
Anyways... there is a difference between being a "driver" and being the "medium".
We humans can be a driver, the CO2 can be the medium for higher temperatures (until it's removed by natural processes over the course of thousands of years).
A period of intense volcanism that releases copious amount of CO2 can be a driver, CO2 just sits there in the atmosphere for a long time and changes global temperatures.
If you say that temperature drives CO2, then that would imply that CO2 by itself cannot be sustained and is removed when temperatures drop. This implies that you need another mechanism than CO2 to explain a climate change and higher temperatures.
What mechanism is there?
Sometimes it also helps to think about extreme situations.
What do you think would happen if all volcanism on the earth would suddenly stop, and volcanism would not produce a "steady" influx of CO2 anymore? What do you think would happen to our world then, if this "driver" of sustained nice temperatures would suddenly disappear?