the kind of care he is talking about would bankrupt the entire country 3 times over
3 times over? Care to provide any figures to back up such a wild claim? At least you seem to have accepted that socialism can work which is progress I guess. I'm afraid I don't have the energy to spend much time questioning how giving handouts to people who work as much as they are humanly capable of working to ensure they can survive causes a lazy population though (unless you're only saying the lazy population will result in cases of 'extreme' socialism).
he doesnt care as long as it does not affect him
Actually that sort of a view fits in nicely with an extreme capitalist approach, rather than a more socialist one. Capitalism revolves around greed and self interest, and for good reason, since humans are inherintly selfish - people will always do what they think is best for them. It also happens to be the reason why pure communism is doomed to failure, because people are selfish, and pure communism acts as though they're not. Caring for the country (and by extension the people in it) on the other hand is a more socialist ideal!