As of Saturday, Sunday I Will be Homeless.

The peace was too good to last and yesterday I was told to get out of the house.  The woman I used to call mother has become so mean spirited that I cannot stand being anywhere near her anymore.  All I asked was that she stopped talking down to me like a child all the time, to stop being condescending, to stop dropping snide remarks and not to treat me with contempt whenever it suits her.  Well that was it and then it was on for young and old.... with me being kicked out when I had to shout to be heard because she continually kept talking over the top of me.  I was accused of elder abuse when in fact it was me who was being abused.

Anyway, I'm having to do a rushed packing job and have to be out by Sunday at the latest... despite the fact she leaves for England on Wednesday.  Furthermore, because there is no signed or current lease agreement, she has told the landlord notice to come pick up the keys on Tuesday evening, meaning there is no staying for me, not that I could afford it on my own anyway.  We had an arrangement that she would assist me with rent because she gets a subsidy with her pension, but that has been reneged on and now I'm up shit creek. 

I still have to pay out my phone,internet and Foxtel contract despite being homeless, so there's 10 more months of that at 180 per month, which is something else she let me down on.  She uses the phone and internet but refuses to help pay for it.  Oh well, I'll have it for another day before it all gets cut off, but I won't be around for quite some time and I'll see you when I see you

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Damn, Mark. That sucks. Man, I hope this mess gets fixed quickly.

 

Praying for ya here, man.

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Praying for you Mark. Hope you get it together. We're here for you.

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THIS IS NOT RIGHT ALL HUMAN BEINGS DESERVE BETTER TREATMENT THAN THAT. If you need a place I will step up too the plate you can come here this is no joke I want and Need to HELP YOU !!!! please CONTACT ME ASAP!!!through this post I have room and a bed for you !!!!!!!!!!!! :thumbsup:

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Hoping for the best...despite the lousy breaks, you'll always be welcome here...and I'm really sorry for the best for you. Prayers and good thoughts, my friend.

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Aug 4... syd says

"Stop unpacking boxes!!...  run for the hills...  see if you can move back to your nieces place..."

living with miserable and mean spirited is no way to live... better off out of there and see where the dice fall....

situations like that just don't get better...

sorry it has spoilt what was remaining of your relationship with your mother though... though now you know where you stand... :-|

 

You can ring and have Foxtel put on hold for a number of months..

"You can suspend your service for up to three months and it can only be done once per 12 month period.  Call 131 999 to set the dates up".

 

If the building work is still going on at your nieces house... why don't you try to lock up your possessions in her garage and go bunk on Mrs S's couch til you sort it out... just a suggestion...

Hope you're back on track soon... we'll be waiting for you to jump back into the forums when you're ready...  you can always pop into the local library and drop by to let us know how you're going...   :)

 

 

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Oh my Gawd.  So sorry to hear this starkers. And she can't kick you out yesterday. It's inhumane. Probably illegal.  You've gotta find a way to stay there and find a place to live "while" she's gone. She has to see this.  And short of physical contact, unless you have something nice to say or constructive, Ignore her. Or go yes, yes, yes. Whatever right?   I understand about meds or age just changing people, it happens. But you shouldn't go homeless for that. You can always record her, for your own safety, just sayin.   :\ So they don't think you're doing what she's sayin. Drastic measures.  Wishing you lots of wellness.

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I hope that your problem is solved shortly. Maybe the companies involved will understand your situation and let you off the hook.

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All of the above.

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well this sucks............. maybe Shaunna can give the couch for a while till you get on your feet?? 

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I really hate to hear that Starkers.  I hope you can get something worked out.  We're pullin' for you.

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Sad to hear this Starkers, everyone is praying for you.

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Lots of good thoughts by good people coming your way Capt'n.   Hope you can read these ideas, and something helps.  <3

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Quoting IROKONESS, reply 6

Probably illegal.

Won't be illegal unless there's a formal lease...

Either way it's a bummer, and a reminder [to all] that just because someone is your mother doesn't make them a good person [only an important one to your existence].

No-one NEEDS on-going grief from 'relatives' or anyone else... better to distance yourself sooner rather than later...;)

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When I thought things couldn't get any worse, they did yesterday. though it feels like just today because I've not been able to sleep due to stress, hurt and anxiety, despite not having slepy for 3 days previously because of the upheaval in my life right now.  It is now approching 3.00am and I'm not even in the slightest bit tired [though I should be exhausted both physically and mentally after the last few weeks] so hopefully the 3 cans of Jim Beam, something I promised myself 14 years I'd never indulge in again, will help me get some sleep.  I would have opted for meeds but there are none here I can take, so the Beam is my last resort.

Anyway, mother [not that she deserves that title anymore] was out and Shaunna came down with her new partner and Bianca with her partner to help me pack so I could vacate by the weekend as request.... demanded.  Now all was going well until she came home and started on at Bianca for no good reason.  She was asked by Bianca to leave her out of it but mother persisted with hostility and followed her to where the rest of us were.  I asked her nicely to leave "the poor girl alone, it has nothing to do with her" and the next thing she's attacking us all with hostility, foul language and abuse.

Thing is, we tried to ignore her, but no matter, she kept it up and even followed us from room to room with her tirade as we continued to pack,  I noticed that an Asus laptop I bought from her and paid for was missing from my desk so went to ask for it.  No way no how was she giving it back to me, despite excepting my money for it, nor was she willing to refund my money, stating that without a written receipt I could not claim ownership even though I had proof of money changing hands.  Well I saw red that she'd treat me that way so I snatched it and smashed it across my knee.

Well that did it, she rang 000 [911 in the US] and told the operator I was smashing up the [rented] property along with all her possessions.  Next thing we hear is sirens and the cops arrive.  Never laid a hand on her but she wanted me charged with assault, wilfull destruction of her property and trespass.  The cops could see she was just being a hysterical trouble making bitch after taking statements from all of us, but under the law I was going to be removed from the property without my possessions and taken to the watchhouse at her insistence.  Had Shaunna and Steve not stepped in and said that I could stay with them, I would have been in jail 'til next Monday.

The upshot of it all is that the cops will come over the weekend to keep the peace while we get the rest of my stuff out.  Now Bianca's partner photographed everything of mine and told police he had done so because my scavenging sister was there starting to rifle through my stuff to see what she could pilfer.  Anyway, the cops told her to leave my stuff alone, that it had all been photographed and if anything was missing she would be charged.

And I'm not done with her, either.  She lied to the cops about various things when she wasn't there, not until after it had all gone down, so I have arranged for a drug raid on her house because she is a cannabis, speed and ice user, as is her son who is also staying at her subsidised home without paying rent that would be due had she declared his being there 6 months ago.  He also cooks ice, so they're all going down... I told her not to fuck me over by assisting mother to have me jailed with her lies, so now I'm going to fuck her over far worse.  Not only will she be visited by police about the drugs, local and state health authorities will be brought in because of the dangerous chemicals leeching into the drains, etc; then she will be called upon by the state housing authority for having numbers of non-sanctioned persons residing in her subsidised housing for the last 15 years while charging them rent and not handing over to the housing authority/her landlord under the terms of tenancy

I am generally a peaceful, happy-go-lucky person who wouldn't hurt anyone, but I won't be fucked with, and my former sister knows it, so what's coming to her is deserved given the lies and betrayal.

Oh well, given the turn of events in recent weeks, I consider Shaunna and Bianca, her kiddies, their respective partners to be family now.  Even my own son and daughter have become drug fucked and alcohol affected, neither is redeemable/saveable, and I'm too bloody old to be fighting a losing battle with or for people who have absolutley no respect for me or themselves.

Yeah, I'm pretty angry, and I'm guessing it shows, but I'll get over it and move on.  In fact, I'll be better off without the lot of them, less stress, less worrry, less anxiety and depression.  Tomorrow is the beginning of the rest of my life and I'll do alright.  I'm okay for accomodation for a while and I will get an affordable place of my own through contacts of Shaunna's and Steve's

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o_O

 

feel terrible for you.........hopefully things start looking up at some point soon! 

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Good heavens.

Mark...keep calm or you'll stroke out. Screw 'em all, tall and small. Just leave 6 for pall bearers.

Seriously...keep control. No anger...there's no point. To hell with them, just keep your friends and those you feel are family...and screw the rest. If you never speak to them again, it'll be too soon.

 

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Quoting DrJBHL, reply 17

Seriously...keep control. No anger...there's no point. To hell with them, just keep your friends and those you feel are family...and screw the rest. If you never speak to them again, it'll be too soon.

sage words...   ;)

 

Quoting starkers, reply 15

the next thing she's attacking us all with hostility, foul language and abuse.

it sounds like she's gone quite loopy... really... cut your losses and get the hell outa Dodge...

even if old age/senility is responsible for your mother's erratic behaviour... she had to have had a real nasty streak there to begin with, so just don't look back... 

 

take the laptop though.... could still come in handy...   ;)

 

Quoting DrJBHL, reply 17

Mark...keep calm or you'll stroke out.

yeah... you need to start lightening up before you stroke out.... :\

 

Quoting starkers, reply 15

In fact, I'll be better off without the lot of them, less stress, less worrry, less anxiety and depression. Tomorrow is the beginning of the rest of my life and I'll do alright. I'm okay for accomodation for a while and I will get an affordable place of my own through contacts of Shaunna's and Steve's

 

Kudos to Mrs S and Bianca and partners for helping you out... in times of trouble.. you find out who your friends are... the cream rises to the top...

 

Start unwinding now and sorting out your nice peaceful future...    :sun:  

and as for your mother...   :rolleyes:   ;)

 

 

Quoting starkers, reply 15

Anyway, mother [not that she deserves that title anymore]

yeah... you're right....

"mother"  hereinafter referred to as  "the incubator"...  ;)   from whom you emerged.... starkers....    ^_^

 

 

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Quoting starkers, reply 15

Well I saw red that she'd treat me that way so I snatched it and smashed it across my knee.

Woo Hoo    One for the Cap'n. :grin:  But you can't do that.   8|   Wouldn't be prudent. And get you in trouble which is not the plan.  Awesome you have a place to hang your hat. No not there... hehe         You'll find that home starkers. I can't wait for you.  All good thoughts to you.            

 

 

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You'll have to kip in the dunny mate ;)

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Quoting Fuzzy, reply 20

You'll have to kip in the dunny mate

 

o_O   fair suck o' tha sauce bottle...   :S

 

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Well, things took another nose dive, my new TV arrived on Thursday, 5 days earlier than expected and she sent it back, 

Moreover, she gets to keep the $999 because she ordered it for me via her Kogan account. 

Unfuckingbelievable, ripped off by my former mother.... someone I was supposed to have been able to trust.

So now the gloves are off.... big time...

The Win 8 Pro tablet she plans... er, planned to take to England... the invoice is in my name [which is what the cop said about my TV.... she technically owns it

So guess what?  I turn up with the cops tomorrow [have to because she had me removed and they are required to keep the peace, which in fact is in my favour cos she can't speak directly to me under the act... silence is golden] to get the rest of my stuff, and then I'm having her charged with the theft of my Asus tablet.

Furthermore, I have 3 witnesses who heard her say that she sympathised with the Islamic State terrorist group and blamed the West for all the trouble/conflict.  As I recall, we have new laws regarding terrorist sympathisers/supporters and flying out of the country.... so I doubts she'll be heading to the UK because on Wednesday I'm alerting Customs and Immigration in relation to her comments/crazy ideals.. the fact she can't be trusted.

No, I'm not a nice person... but then I've been given no reason to want to be [in this matter].   Thus far this miserably failed exercise has cost me in excess of $2500 - moving twice thus far, the loss of my $1000 TV, ongoing expenses that she generated while I was there - and I'm not done paying because of her yet.  When I find myself another residence I'll have to pay to move all my stuff again... so inconvenience at the airport, etc is more than well deserved IMO.

I'm not finished there, either.  While we were waiting for the cops to arrive this morning, Shaunna and I watched my scavenging sister load stuff she knows is mine into her car and take it away, so a theft complaint will be lodged against her as well.  I thought that I could rely on her to talk some sense into my mother and organise for my TV to be delivered to me, but no such luck. No she took mother's side with that regard, so I will have police check to see if the bitch has it at her address, cos that is a distinct possibility, given how much stuff of mine she drove off with.

Yup, I'm bitter, very bitter, and with good reason, so vengeance is mine sayeth the starkers, and he shall mete it out with positive glee should his now bitter and twisted and aggrieved mind devise ways within the law and so desire it.

Anyway, I'm off to read 101 Undetectable Chinese Tortures to see if it contains anything of interest... bye.

 

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Over here we say " It's on".    :banhammer:

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"Its clobberin' time!"

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the tele was really bad timing.... the tablet... yep... get it off her... but the Islamic State stuff is a bit of a stretch.... she's hardly off to Syria to join the fight... and not likely to fund them... unless they want a $999 tele she has spare...... the cops are probably just going to look at her and thinks she's on the dementia side really....  cut your losses... tell em all to bugger off and cut the cord...   ;)