I am not attracted to fat men.

from JoeUser Forums

I came to this realization today as I was walking my children to school.  I saw a fat Soldier in his PTs with his fat knees and his chubby face and it just clicked.

All along I have tried to fight this because I get so annoyed by men, especially fat or otherwise physically less-than-ideal men, making negative comments about overweight women.  The beauty standards American women are held to are so obnoxious, and it was refreshing to think that at least one sex could still get by with being "real" and "average". 

I had it in my head that since I am no Jessica Alba, or Jessica Alba's slightly overweight, buck-toothed, but still kinda cute cousin, for that matter, I had no right to demand...or even appreciate...qualities like fitness in a man.  I even felt kind of wrong for having such a hot husband, and even more wrong when he would work out a lot and get buff.  It would be like having one awesome, perky breast and a sad little droopy bit of flesh with a diseased green nipple beside it.  Very uneven and just somehow...wrong.

But I like what I like, and you know what?  If ugly, flabby men can imagine themselves deserving the amorous attention of Angelina Jolie, then what's wrong with a size 12 goofball like me proclaiming that men with knee fat are unworthy of any perverted leering on my part?

I like that my husband takes care of his body.  I like that he's attractive.  And I would be less attracted to him (physically, anyways), if he put on a ton of weight and ended up a doughy weakling. 

I'm entitled to be shallow and adhere to double standards, too. 

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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
What the hell is knee fat?

~Zoo
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
I am attracted to guys who look like THIS though!

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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
Don't worry, I'm not attracted to girls with knee fat either. It's just not hot on anyone.

I mean can you imagine some fashion expert going to a potential model, "I'm sorry Jessica Alba/CalvinKleinClone3000, you have abs of steel/a waist like the fall of the Roman Empire but your knees...They're just not fat enough. Get out of my sight."
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
Whew! One less woman for me to worry about.
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
Oddly enough . . . I'm not attracted to fat men either.
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
No women have...umm...weighed in...on this one yet.



Hmmmmmm, some men might have fat knees because of a bum leg, you know when the knee goes bad it retains water until surgery releases the pressure! Aw shucks I can't think of anything clever to quip!
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
Cacto: Ha. I actually don't think women always look bad a little heavier because I think women are meant to be soft, but doughy knees on a dude just seems wrong.

Fat knees = very little sexual prowess, imo. LOL.

Zoo: I tried to find a pic for you, but couldn't. I think it's a major hang up for me, haha. I don't mind a gut so much (within reason), but guys with fat legs and fat, girlish arms are not my speed.

I know you've got to have seen people with fat knees before!

Mason:

SC: At least I'm not the only one. Hahahahaa.

No women have...umm...weighed in...on this one yet.
Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
I know you've got to have seen people with fat knees before!


Hmm...maybe...I know my knees are thin. All tendons, ligaments and bone in there.

~Zoo
Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top
I actually like my guys a little bigger. While I think that guys like Daughtry, (and thanks for the pics) Orlando Bloom and Johnny Depp are hot (and they are very, very hot) in real life, I go for the guys who have very broad shoulders and a bit of a belly. Knee fat is taking things a bit too far. I don't like them to have dunlaps disease too badly either. You know, where the belly dun lapped over the belt. This may be, however, because I don't like guys smaller than me. However, I do like there to be plenty to snuggle with and guys with a little extra padding do make good pillows.
Reply #11 from JoeUser Forums Top
Meh, to each their own.

Me, I'm not superficial; I look at much more than just...whether they have 'the look'. I look at how/who they are on the inside. Example, my girlfriend doesn't think she is attractive at all, cause of various reasons...me, I find her incredibly attractive, extremely beautiful, gorgeous, sexy...etc...
Reply #12 from JoeUser Forums Top
But bigger means strong, and able to protect (and be good in bed!),


I should get that put on a T-shirt and wear it often.

~Zoo
Reply #13 from JoeUser Forums Top
Forever: Hehe. Well, there is a difference between "big" knees and knees with fat hanging off the back of them!

I'm not talking about "a little more to love" kinda guys...I'm talking about F-A-T guys who look so out of shape and weak.

Shovelheat:

You know, LtheCG is super funny, but NOT HOT. Although he acknowledges this. Hehe.

My favorite, btw (and it pisses Adrian off when I say this) is, "Did you sit in gum"? haha.

Zoo: As it should be. Hehe.

SHE: I do make an exception for Jack Black. And I agree with you about having a guy bigger than me. I never want to weigh more than my husband, LOL.

But bigger means strong, and able to protect (and be good in bed!), not flabby and weak.

Lucas: Uh-huh.
Reply #14 from JoeUser Forums Top
I go for the guys who have very broad shoulders and a bit of a belly.


Haha! You and I would get along famously then.

~Zoo
Reply #15 from JoeUser Forums Top
I know this is predictable but: Don't listen to her people, she's hot! Her main fault is she is pathologicallly self depricating!
Reply #16 from JoeUser Forums Top
Cacto: Ha. I actually don't think women always look bad a little heavier because I think women are meant to be soft, but doughy knees on a dude just seems wrong.


I dunno, I think anyone whose fat rolls over the top over their knees is just not hot.

I would like to say though that I am completely unsurprised that Lucas disagrees. Beggars can't be choosers.
Reply #17 from JoeUser Forums Top
Cacto: Ha. I actually don't think women always look bad a little heavier because I think women are meant to be soft, but doughy knees on a dude just seems wrong.


I dunno, I think anyone whose fat rolls over the top over their knees is just not hot.

I would like to say though that I am completely unsurprised that Lucas disagrees. Beggars can't be choosers.
Reply #18 from JoeUser Forums Top
You like what you like. I think when it comes to fantasy men, or women for that matter, we all go for the hot body over the out of shape one. In real life when you know the person it makes a huge difference. If they have a good heart and a great personality, you can overlook a little pudge. I think women in general are more forgiving than men.
Reply #19 from JoeUser Forums Top
I'll go so far to say that I'm not attracted to: skinny guys, super-super buff guys (We're talking pro body builders) or guys with baby faces. I also prefer guys with facial hair, don't ask me why. I suppose the fact that my mother named me after Mrs. Claus makes me this way.

But, as Tex says, once fat starts falling over the knees, that's a bit too big for me.
Reply #20 from JoeUser Forums Top
While I like my girls skinny and pettite. My girlfried doesn't like that in a guy, she doesnt' like the really fat or really muscle guys either. Which is I guess why we work out so well together.

Oh yeah, we updated our wedding website so you can see some pics for yourself. In some older ones I am fat as a cow, some I am really skinny (due to drugs), the recent pics I think I finally found my happy medium.

www.elizabethandgeoffrey.com
Reply #21 from JoeUser Forums Top
All that is true. Guess it's what we are "trained" to like.

Whateva though, works for me.

And I know you were not referring to me, but I don't think many people simple dismiss non-pettite women. I find many "non-pettite" women hot as hell. I know a LOT of people who actually like their women bigger.

Besides, after kids not too many of you are pettite anymore anyway

(don't kill me girls)
Reply #22 from JoeUser Forums Top
What I find disturbing (not referring to Caracarn here) is the automatic, out of hand dismissal of non-petite women.


No! You never wanna do that! There's nothin' like having more cushion for your pushin' you know...
  
Reply #23 from JoeUser Forums Top
There's nothin' like having more cushion for your pushin' you know...


I was waiting for someone to say it.

Hey Tex, You might appreciate this:

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Reply #24 from JoeUser Forums Top
Hehe, I think maybe I failed to convey my point properly (which I seem to be doing a lot lately, sorry guys). I don't mean that, were I unattached, I could not love a man who is very overweight (and in fact in my husband ever became extremely overweight it would *not* be game over). What I mean is that I've finally decided to embrace, rather than repress, my ideas of what "my type" is...and on a purely physical level, I like men without fat knees and girlish flabby arms.

I want a guy who looks like he might be able to weild a sword. Hahahaa.

LW: I understand what you're saying, and I agree, BUT (ha) if guys can be all shallow and stupid, why can't I?

Toblerone: Hehe. I think you need glasses!

cacto:
Beggars can't be choosers.


Damn skippy. (One of my favorite sayings, btw, the beggars and choosers, not the damnn skippy. Damn skippy is just a stupid thing to say. Haha.)

Loca: I definitely agree that women are more forgiving than men when it comes to appearances.

I think as guys age they become more accepting, though.

SHE: We probably have similar tastes in men, haha. I'm not too big on skinny guys. If a guy weighs less than me, I am super self-conscious and also feel like I'm the guy. Haha. You know, like I might need to kill spiders or fend off a purse snatcher. LOL.

Caracarn: Thanks for the url. It's so fun to see pics of the people we interact with on her, and your fiancee is definitely a hottie!

I understand (even though I may not like it!) that guys go for the small, toned chick with the razor blade hip bones. I don't think *love* depends on that, but for pure sexual attraction, thin is in. Which is why I decided I can be a pig and declare fat guys unattractive to me.

LW: Heh, I think you're right on the money with that.

I guess maybe instead of looking for real people, maybe we see it as a "wish list"? Like if I could have anything and everything I want, this is what it would be?

There's a guy in my neighborhood who has a big truck that's up on HUGE wheels. He has "Lift it. Fat chicks can't jump!" all over his truck.

When I see it I always think:

a) I can too. (haha)

and

b) I'd like to see this motherfucker and see how perfect he is that he can afford to declare fat chicks off-limits for his attention.


Caracarn: You're right about having kids. Well, not for all women (and I hate those women), but for most having kids trashes your body.

When I was younger all I saw was flaws and I picked on myself about them, but if I could look like that now, I'd wear a bikini to the grocery store. Haha.

Shovel: Is there a difference between fantasy girls you'd (by you I mean, like, guys in general) want to bed and the reality of what kind of girls would be fun/enjoyable in reality?

(Say you like the look of svelte women or whatever, but on a tactile level, a rounder woman is more attractive?)

Do you get what I'm asking? I'm having a hard time phrasing it.

SHE: Thanks for the link!
Reply #25 from JoeUser Forums Top
Shovel: Is there a difference between fantasy girls you'd (by you I mean, like, guys in general) want to bed and the reality of what kind of girls would be fun/enjoyable in reality?


I call it the "WKRP in Cinncinnati syndrome" - Everybody was always all hot 'n bothered about Jennifer Marlowe (Loni Anderson's character) but...the one the guys reaaaallly wanted was Bailey Quarters. I think because she was more down to Earth, more...I dunno...obtainable? More...real? More maybe like home. heh, like you I...

I'm having a hard time phrasing it.


  

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