Strange events in my life...

Okay, dude, you're gonna totally hate me after this, but I just gotta say it because I'm going out of my mind...

And I know I'm full of shit, but I'm being totally serious, and I'm saying this because I consider you a really good friend, and I care about your happiness...

Let the intervention begin.

Let's start with the topic at hand - you've got a girl really far away that you like and you're tempted to go out there to see her. NO - WORST IDEA EVER. I've done it before, (seriously), and it's just not worth it. Hell, there's probably one just like her in the area, go outside and look.

On top of that, are you even sure you're up for another relationship? You and "uberbitch" broke up a year ago, and you're still bitter - that's not healthy. Hell, you're angrier about my ex than I am. If anything, you just need to get a couple girls under your belt, nothing serious, just a casual relationship or two. No "falling in love" or trying to marry 'em. Just fuck n go.

But before you can get a decent girl, you need to get your shit together, cuz girls want someone who's "got it together". Here's what I suggest...

1.) We clean you up. New haircut, take some girls out shopping with you (girls with taste) and get some good clothes. Why? Cuz you're gonna...
2.) Get a new job. Because no employer's gonna want anyone doing anything more than grunt work if you don't look G-fucking-Q. I know that sucks, but first impressions are a bitch.
3.) Get your own place, not one run by your folks. Pay your rent, utilities, buy some groceries, learn how to cook. And if you don't keep it clean, we'll all hastle the shit out of you. And since you're out of the house...
4.) Mouth off to your Dad for once! He pisses you off? Fucking do something about it! He's not gonna disown you and he's too much of a pussy to kick your ass. Hell, he'd probably give you some goddamn respect for once.
5.) For every hour you spend playing games or on your computer doing leisure activities, you will spend two hours in a public place being social or reading a book. Work doesn't count for either side.
6.) Join Deadbolt and I for some sparring, because you're gonna pick a fight. Win or lose doesn't matter, but you're gonna learn to stand up for yourself without the aid of friends or threatening to sue (legal action is for pussies, I don't care how cool your attorney is).

That's enough to make you a golden god. When you believe you can do anything, you can do anything.

Your life is full of disappointments because you're disappointing yourself. The cycle of misery ends when you seriously get up and do something about it.

Do something to really w00t for. And call me when you read this...

Carpe.Fucking.Diem

don't listen to negotiator boy, there's flaws in almost everything he says:

with your current take on 'love' (however flawed it may be), you won't be happy with f'n & go

mouthing off to someone who is possibly already mad at you is not going to solve *anything*
it'll piss him off, it'll piss you off, and you'll be more distant than ever. he doesn't want to see
you be a rebel, he wants to see you do something *good* for yourself.
picking fights with random people just makes you an asshole, win or lose.
you don't need to be able to kick someone's ass to be a man, nor know how to threaten
legal action.

the social aspect of it, i guess i can't disagree with... getting your own place might solve
some things, but it'll only make your money tighter. figure out what'll make you happy first,
then go do it.

if you don't know what this girl feels, don't go for her now. if you feel like an ass now, you'll feel
like an uber ass if she doesn't reciprocate your feelings. figure out if she really does like you,
set the wheels in motion, and go from there. go out and see her wherever she lives at,
stay in the area with another friend for a few days [and take some time off work, you know it'll
make you much more sane], do some fun things with her, and see what happens.

you could realize that you really don't love her, that she has some ultimate flaw that you cannot
get past no matter what.

being a 'golden god' as negotiatormomo says, will make you a completely 1 dimensional, sex-
craving lunatic that cares for nothing other than picking fights and pwning teh lusarz.

is that really what you want?

hey, that hurt my feelings =*\

ahhhh, delicious ambiguity.....it's what life's all about. I say, Go for it!

Trinitie

Do it! I did it.

I moved thousands of miles and continents away from my family, gave up my job, my house....everything for a guy I loved. 10 years later, here we are, together, still.

'Tis better to have loved and lost than never have loved at all'

okay, it's 9am, I've eaten, and I'm much more rational...here we go...

1.) you really should get some more girl experience under your belt. There's only one way to really learn in this area, and that's by doing. And by "doing" I mean find some and talk, the actual "doing" is at your descretion. But I don't want to hear about you and wedding invitations for a long while, and this goes for the rest of the goon squad.
2.) Your Dad's not Hitler, so stop acting like he is. In fact, he's a pretty decent guy. If he makes you mad, express that to him. Bottling it up does nothing but cause you grief. Don't forget, he's a passionate guy too, so if there's something you really wanna do and can show some initiative, I'm sure he'd back you up 100%.
3.) the point of picking fights: you're not made of glass. All men are equal (until they start adding cybernetic attachments). Don't be afraid of anyone, you have no reason to. Because anything they could do to you, you could just as easily do to them. You are not inferior. Legal action is still for pussies.
4.) In regards to the girl, I would agree with Gobie except for the extreme distance involved, this isn't a 1-2 hour drive we're talking about. Try to stay within a maximum 60 mile radius if you can. it's hard enough to maintain a relationship when you're an hour apart, believe me.
5.) As to the taking time off of work, I'd advise you to forego that and just get a new job. Seriously go job hunting, I'll be behind you to crack the whip, cuz you don't want to be stuck in the hellhole you're at forever workng for slave-wage.
6.) For the social aspects - I stand behind letting the girls take you out for a make-over. As retarded as it sounds, some new threads can give you that little self-confidence injection you need to get going, and self-confidence builds on itself. Sort of the old "look good - feel good - look better - feel better" circle. I'm not shooting down your style, but if you want to get girls it's usually good to have a girl's input on your clothing. I also stand behind my "1 hour of games, 2 hours of social activity", especially since I can quote you as writing "video games are boring". (btw - it felt sooooo good to see those words)

Once again, you're the only one keeping yourself in a funk. So snap out of it!

And regardless of the fact that I'm a "1 dementional, sex-craving lunatic that cares for nothing other than picking fights and pwning teh lusarz", (which is a good definition of me in a nutshell) , I'm also quite happy, and that's what's important to me. And I'm a firm believer that before you can go out and find someone that makes you happy, you need to find something that makes you happy. "Things" come and go a lot less than people do.

You missed the point of this conversation, Negotiator.
A) I'm getting a cheaper car (hopefully) so I don't spend as much money on it.
Getting a higher-paying job (menial labor or not) so I can go off to school eventually
C) Your ideas of "fun" are laughable. I'm sorry, but going to the bars just to "pick up chicks" does not interest me in the slightest. I have had more fun these past weeks talking to said girl than I ever had drinking with my friends. And that's saying something, because I've had some good times drinking.

I've done a lot of reflecting these past few days, and all I can say is that no matter what I do, my friends and family should stick behind me. If it turns out to be a bad choice, that's my fault, and I'm the only one to blame. Just don't make me feel horrible about it (Dad vs. Civic, anyone?), or gloat about how you were right and I was wrong.

I've also noticed something else... this past week, I've had two friends call me to ask if I want to hang out. Two! And I'm not including my best friend, who does live 60 miles away, because that's just a normal occurance lately. It always seems like my friends are using me, and that isn't right... especially lately. I really don't like the way my life is currently running, but I'm still happy, simply because I'm talking to said girl.

By the way, I'm almost 100% certain now she likes me.

Take that and shove it, Negotiator. I've decided that a big move is what I want, what I need, and whether that be with this girl or off in the opposite direction, I don't care. I need to leave this filthy state for good.

I never said anything about going to the bar and picking up chicks, because that's not what I do. In fact, I make it a rule to do so because what i don't want is a barfly.

Either way, have a nice trip, call me if you need anything, the phone works both ways...

Yes, the phone works both ways. However, you should understand that I am trying to do this for my own happiness. Overall, friends should be glad when their friends are happy. I do not see how you being mad at me for pursuing a dream, no matter how it may turn out, will benefit either of us. Those who stick by me will always be my friends, and those who think I am doing something idiotic will be quickly left behind.

I know a lot of my friends don't know about this or read this, so I'm just putting it out there right now. Negotiator, I'm not trying to leave everyone I know behind, I'm trying to create a new life, a happy life, and you should be happy for me to attempt something as crazy as this. If it doesn't work out, I will admit defeat, and come back almost as happy as I was when I left.

Zim, honey, you're doing the right thing. If it doesn't work out, you'll at least know you tried. If you don't try I think you'll be kicking yourself in the ass forever for not trying.

You can't always make your parents happy. I know that, I learned that the same way you're learning it.

If you want to talk about this further, or perhaps chat a while, you can email me at [email protected]. My Yahoo Messenger ID is the same...

I'm behind you all the way dude. And not to be negative, becuase I wish you all the luck in the world, But there's no way I'm believing the "If it doesn't work out, I will admit defeat, and come back almost as happy as I was when I left" crap. If it doesn't work out you'll be pissy and unbearable for the next 2 months. Like I said, I'm not being negative, but that's you, dude.

And I have to agree with Dharmagirl, go for it. There only one thing in my life I regret, and that's a girl. It may work out, it may suck, but at least you can say you tried your damnedest.

And you better try your damnedest too, I'll kick yer ass if you don't give it 1000%

Sits in his room and crys softly.... that was the most emotional responses I have read from ppl in ages.... [he stops crying instantaniously]
Anyway enough of that bulllshit...

Rev... You have Dharma and Neg telling you to do it.... now its my turn =D..........

As for talking to the girl thats so far away.... hey its not so bad, believe me I should know.... Im dating a girl in AUS right now, Im on the other side of the massive pond we call the pacific ocean =| we have been together well coming up soon 9 months, we were just friends much like yourself and the said female.... am I gonna give up my home and all that good shit to be with her.... damn fucking right I am... in a heart beat, Im tired of living in this depressive state, and state of mind so what am I going to say in this whole matter....errrrr


GO FOR IT