I can really relate to alot of people here.
Generally, I am really really competitive when it comes to games, I am for the win, and I really enjoy being like that. Trying different strategies and ideas and see how they would work out and (hopefully) reap my rewards .
However like some of you said, its annoying when you have to use the newest method of winning or you are not going to. In my opinion thats not strategy....Hence why havent picked SC2 yet...I enjoy the competition, but there is no fun. Whats the point if the match would end before its begun?
My best multi player time has been with Empire Earth 2. I guess its because there are branching ways you can start and a lot of factors to consider not just the units you are going to build. Eg the research you going to do, what civilization you are, your main power, do you play defensive or not. Matches with one friend tend to be from 20minutes to 2/5 hours..which is really refreshing..sometimes its quick 20 min game (if the situation calls for it) but we can have an enjoyable night playing one match.I have played a lot of this game and its really weird how its not that popular...but hey we are all unique in our own ways hehe.
By playing Elemental, my first TBS game, I am starting to actually enjoy planing my expansion and not just clicking non stop Enter. Its really refreshing hehe. Maybe people who tend to like TBS games are the more relaxed crowd, or maybe I am just talking rubbish hehe