Who would make you stay faithful?

I heard yesterday an amazing stat. Over 70% of all marriages end up with one or the other partner getting involved in an affair. I want to know, who would keep you faithful if you were lucky enough to have this person as a spouse.

Don't waste my time with the self-rightious hogwash. I'll give you my pick in one week.
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No "self-ritieous" answers? So, if I read this correctly, you are only looking for answers from the cheaters. The problem with this question, as I see it, is that a cheater is going to cheat regardless of who they are with. There is always someone better. And if there isn't, time makes everyone less attractive and brings in new contenders to lust after. Perhaps a better wording would be a more clear "who would you most like to be in a long-term monogamous relationship with?"
To a non-cheater (who will mostly be discouraged from answering due to your wording), the commitment they have made is it's own enforcement. It doesn't matter to whom. It's their word and honor. To that 30% of humanity, truth actually means something.
(Waiting for the obligitory post deletion so you folks can talk about what stars and idols are hottest this year).
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I'm faithful to my husband. It's not difficult. It's called self-control and commitment. I find it sad that someone would need a celebrity spouse in order to keep their wedding vows. Kudos to Zack Sweden for hitting the nail on the head.
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I'm faithful to my husband. It's not difficult. It's called self-control and commitment


ditto.....well to my wife anyways. I've been married eight and a half years now, and it's simple. You decide not to cheat, and then you don't cheat. If you cheat you know you're wrong, and any excuse you give is mere justification. If you can't stay with the one you're married to, well, then you can't.

But have the balls to seperate first; don't try to have your cake and run around behind it's back with a box of Crispy Cremes too.
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Almost 11 years of marriage, 12 of being together, 7 deployments and one year long remote tour.....I think that counts as monogamy.

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A girl I've known since I was 16 (nearly 10 years). Beautiful, intelligent, never a dull moment and sharp as a tack. The type of woman that makes 'checking out' other women seem like a pointless waste of time.
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My husband. Partly because he would never cheat on me. I know there are a million other reasons, but this mutual committment helps. I happen to have a pretty low self-esteem, and I expect him to cheat on me. He is stubborn and wants to prove me wrong.

My husband once told me something amazing:
"Some men leave gigantic legends when they die. Ronald Reagan was the Great Communicator. Neil Armstrong was the first man on the moon. I want to be Chris M, the man who never cheated on his wife."

That says it all.
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Sarah. Kinda like Mr. Mrytle's girl.

Dan
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Short answer ... me. It's simple, I don't cheat and it's not because my mate might know, but because I would know.

Self righteous? Maybe. But I gave up making my decisions based on other people's opinions of me long ago.
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Short answer ... me. It's simple, I don't cheat and it's not because my mate might know, but because I would know.Self righteous? Maybe. But I gave up making my decisions based on other people's opinions of me long ago.


Sorry, but here's another self-righteous answer: me. Simply put, you can come up any excuse as to what made you decide to cheat. But the bottom line is...you made the decision to cheat. Nobody can "make" you cheat, only you can make that decision.

Again, you can come up with a reason to cheat, but do you really need a reason not to cheat?
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This is gonna be simple for me............... the woman I am with keeps me faithfull simply by being my best friend,mom, daughter, sister, nurse,confidant, partner in all things , loyal, and faithfull herself.
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well it looks like no one else wants to play your little game Mr Dawg... since I'm single, I figure its ok for me to venture out there and guess... Sarah Maclachlan.  (did i spell that right?)  There.  I said it. 


oh, and I recently met someone new that has a ton of potential.  If things work out the way I hope they do, I'll be faithful to her.  Come to think of it, she looks a little bit like Sarah... hehehe

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Kinda makes you wonder who all the 70% are.
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Well, if we're going to play this game, I'll bite. If I were not married to my wife right now, my choice would have to be Norah Jones.

She's smart, talented, beautiful, a musician, has a great voice and I've got a huge crush on her.

-- B
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Here's the key for me. Life gets monotonous. Waking up with the same person everyday, smelling their smells every day, hearing their sounds every day, every day, every day...it gets kinda boring. And you love their smells and sounds and habits and preferences and weakness and strengths, but they get old. Sex? Yeah, it gets boring too, I thought. I could even understand why people cheated...they're bored. That thrilling feeling of discovering each other together is gone. And there you are. You keep doing the same old again and agiain, in bed and else where.

Then I met O. Just when things get to that settled point, that point where you think you can't hear them fart through the bathroom wall again without screaming, "You're nasty!", that point where you won't kiss them before they swish with mouthwash, that point where fatigue takes presidence over more passionate alternatives, he breaks out in a British accent ranting about something totally out of the blue. These skills translate into every arena of life. I learned to play along.

He makes me feel like I'm cheating! We're different lovers every day (well, ok that's an exageration, but you get the point)

Creative, mischievous, daring, flexible, playful, up for anything, willing to take it and run. Good, giving and game (GGG) as Dan Savage puts it in his sex advice column. And being GGG in every aspect of our lives refreshes our relationship when boredom sets in. You can't let your partner get bored and if you're bored, they're not doing their job. Cheat with each other.
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Cheat with each other.


Rofl. Zombie and I change my hair color about every 6 months to a year. He says it is cheaper than getting a new mistress. Not to mention, that I keep him on his toes. His mantra goes like this, "Heather has 17 different personalities, any one of which could kill you at any given moment. Life is never boring with a crazy woman!"
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I want to thank everyone who participated. Even the Dr. Phil junkies.

I think I aimed this more at the single folks who were thinking with more than their hormones.

That said, My choice is country singer, Gretchen Wilson. She seems as down to earth as her redneck image portrays her to be.

Not to mention shes a total babe.

Damn... did I say that?