Yeah but spanking your kids didn't equate to an eternity of punishment. As far as jealousy goes I can honestly say there's been only a few circumstances where I have been so jealous as to be wrathful.
-A companion student complaining about their life "sucking a big one" because they didn't get the car they wanted for their birthday when they were already 100% supported by their parents and didn't have to work anyway.
-When my then-fiance cheated on me.
-A time when someone took credit for something I did, with said action having positive repurcussions on a provincial scale.
The 1st and 3rd, I got over pretty easily. The second, I'm still no fan of her and want nothing to do with her, but I still would not want her suffering eternally. That's grossly inhumane.
As far as World War 2 goes, well, is it just to have killed so many civilians? I think, if anything, it was a necessary mistake: it did ultimately end the war, but it also alerted us to just how horrific a weapon we'd created. To how horrific we could yet be. These were not simply army bases, these were not simply targets, where statistics are quickly read and discarded. These were cities full of children, children who did not even comprehend what Pearl Harbor was, who had no idea what went on in Nanking. Families, just like any other family. No, the Japanese were not innocent, and yes, an invasion would most likely have been costly. But then these are also human issues, created and resolved by humans of limited powers.
Surely your god in his glory can think of better ways to drive his point home than the murder of civilians, which he does call for repeatedly in the Old Testament. I don't care if it offends him that not everybody goes his way.
As far as your mercy goes, you point to Eden. Ok, so they Adam and Eve got conned by a serpent and cursed for it. Wait. God, omnipotent, put the tree there, knowing that a serpent could and would easily con his creations, then punished his creations for being conned. And if you follow with the logic, every living thing on Earth as well, since apparently standard predator/prey relations also didn't follow in Eden.
Because we became smart? And he couldn't have ripped the new "flaw" from later creations? And in terms of sin we could actually account for, the sorts of things we have "these days" are nothing special at all. Every sort of vice, high and low, has long since been explored. Some may say, what of violence? Who among us in the first world fears bandits as we travel the roads? Some may say, what of drug use? Salvia Divinorum is not illegal, and in some areas is sold even at convenience stores. We still live in a society where open drug use is a black mark for any employer, and rampant drug use is hardly new - it was around long before even the Romans, in one form or another (nor is drug use inherently wrong, apparently, given alcohols legality). Some will say, what of sexuality? Even the most lewd of our actions has been around for centuries, millenia even.
The only thing different is that communication methods have grown to such a level that we can see what's going on around the world. It was always happening. And that is both illuminating, and for some, frightening. If god would punish the homosexual, pot-smoking "viking" in the maritimes who gave my friends food and shelter on their travels to Newfoundland the same as he would punish, say, a cokehead who shivs a guy in a back alley for his boots, well. That's more than a little warped.
And finally, motivation. No, his earthly agents didn't do it for greed - in the OT they did it because he commanded it.
I must ask - do you think the Crusades were a holy thing, a good thing? Or were they mistakes?
Why does God favour a specific piece of land on Earth (Israel)? In all of creation, there is no other place he likes quite as much? The millions of planets there must be are worthless?
I cannot fathom the morality of an entity who could watch gold be created in a supernova aware of what a rarity it is, or watch the birth of every entity that exists (after he fashions it, no less, in your theology), or know the joys, fears, hopes and pains of all of his children on an intimate level, and then declare that some must be slaughtered and sent to burn forever because they didn't do the thing he wanted them to do, with their limited, mortal minds. As I've said before: if it were some sort of purgation of sin, it would be, philosophically speaking, tolerable (realistically, not so much, given the sanctified murders he calls for), but you insist it truly is forever.
I must also ask, then, what your view on the Jewish take on hell is. To them, hell is temporary, and much more like therapy. A washing machine, rather than a furnace, if you will, going by the words of Rabbi Yisroel Cotlar of Houston, Texas. So then - is this view wrong? Is it correct? Wherein lies the great gulf between Judaism and Christianity, save the obvious answer of believing Christ to be the Messiah?