HOWEVER, I can certainly scrape up enough to send him a box of goodies. I'll be getting offline in about 20 minutes, gimme a call if you want, tell me what you know of his likes and dislikes, and I'll make sure that for at least that week, (Christmas week) he has an abundance.
That is so sweet, I'm humbled.
Instead of a box though (he can only get 3 a year) you might want to send him a money order. He has a commissary there and can purchase the same food items you saw on ohiopackages.com.
You don't have to be on a list or anything to send him a money order, just make sure you put his full name and inmate number as well as your signature and address. It can be for any amount and I know he'd appreciate it.
Just make sure you drop a note too because once the envelope gets to the mail room, they open it, take the money order and put it in his account. He never sees it. So to keep everyone honest I say "hey sent ya $X."
I will PM his information to you.
Thanks. I appreciate it.
And just to keep updated, he is working in the kitchen 5 days a week for $17 a month. That buys his soap and deodorant, hygiene items.
He also applied for an intense therapy based drug treatment life skills class they offer at that facility. He's not hopeless.
Imagine that. Being charged with a crime but not yet having had your day in court, deprived of almost all contact with your children...
Maybe you've found your ministry, Tova.
Well, I don't know about my ministry but its funny you say that. I was thinking the other day how black and white, hard core I am about crime and criminals in general.
This eye opening experience has evolved my thinking. I'm not pro-criminal by any means. But having my brother in the penn reminds me there are faces and names and stories behind the crime.
I don't believe any of those things matter MORE than the crime committed. But at least I allow them on the same page as the crime when I contemplate it all.
I am surprised about the child visitation issue because Ohio lost a case here not too long ago...they suspend your license if you get convicted of a felony. Well, they were suspending licenses BEFORE the actual conviction, while people were waiting for trial. The SC said, nope can't do it. Innocent until PROVEN guilty. So Ohio had to stop.
I'm also surprised because several prisons have playgrounds or "reading rooms" for kids who come to visit a parent. They can go into the reading room, sit on dad's lap, and be read stories.
Jay's visitations are on the weekend (when he's not working) and last for about 3 hours in the morning, and 3 hours in the afternoon. I won't be able to go much because my family has to come first. But I will go, and will likely blog on the whole business.
I guess housing is the difference in how someone waiting for trial is treated. Their house, their rules. I am learning anything classified under "safety" can get implemented without so much as a nod toward basic constitutional rights. And mostly the safety in question is for the guards (which I can understand to a degree).
Thanks again....and if anyone else wants to write him...hahah I can't believe I am saying that, a year ago, well, heh, its safe to say I'd have rolled my eyes at such an outrageous suggestion...I can't change time, but it can certainly change me.
If anyone else might like to write him, PM me. Believe me, I understand not wanting to do it, so no worries.