Do I really have to be a whore?

from JoeUser Forums
That's it, I can't take it anymore I've got to have a rant!

The pressure to be sexually active at 16 really is strong. I was at a party the other day when the question was raised, "Where's the oddest place you've had sex?" The other party members replied with various places in varying degrees of oddness. I left the room "to get a drink" and thus avoid the impossibe question.

I try not to lie about my status as a 16 year old virgin, who's snogged one boy, once. However as somebody said the other day I was, and I quote "amazingly, amazingly hot" people just presume I'm going to be a tart.

I think with people like me it goes either way. I've taken the view that there's no point trying to be something I'm not and am quite proud of that. However other friends (and interestingly with alarming consistency the girls school girls)have gone hell bent on having sex with whoever, where ever.

And it's not only peer pressure, it's the boys aswell, it's what they expect, sex on a plate. And in some respects I feel inadequete being so "frigid".

I however am not going to change. Is it worse to be called a slapper or frigid? I'd rather be Miss Fridge thanks.
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
Or is it better to be called frigid or mama for that matter.

Honestly, if you don't want to have sex, then don't. You are perfectly right not to want to have sex if you don't want to. Don't let someone pressure you into it if you aren't comfortable with it.
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
Lizzy,

Never EVER do anything you are not comfortable with. Especially that! I know there's a lot of pressure on teenagers to have sex, but if you decide you want to do it, it should be for your reasons only. I have a 15 year old son and i know how they can be when it comes to stuff like this. They're just a bunch of walking glands right now. Don't take it personally. They can't help it, and do not know they're acting like idiots.

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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
Lizzy: Babe, I honestly don't think anyone can be considered "frigid" for not having sex at 16. However, if you hang out with kids who are partying and having sex, you are likely going to be ridiculed for not sleeping around. Make your own decisions about sex based on your values and don't succumb to pressure to fool around just to have a lurid story to tell. Good luck!
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
Please stick to the way you are thinking now, to many girls have sex because they think their friends are doing it. Not having sex is nothing to be ashamed of, it shows you have standards, that you are waiting for something special, rather than an uncomfortable fumble, that probably won't leave you feeling very special anyway. Be proud of who you are, don't follow the crowd, and I promise it will be worth it in the long run. Peer pressure is tough I know that, but it is worth ignoring. Them friends will cime and go, but you will have to live with the decisions you make now forever.
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
Lizzy,

The mindset of teenage boys is very weird. Allow me to try to explain (as to explaining teenage girls, I can't do that. I don't think anyone can, not even Mel Gibson...lol).

Teenage boys are all hormones, and they want sex. They will say anything and do anything to get it (including ridiculing your virgin status), especially if you are good looking. If you were horrendously unattractive, you wouldn't get those jokes directed at you.

That being said, teenage boys generally don't respect a girl who's "been around". It's a double standard, I know, but most teenaged boys' alleged sexual prowess is at least ten times greater than their actual sexual prowess; if they say they've had sex with less than ten women, it probably means they got to cop a feel and that was as far as they got.

The thing about your virginity is, you can only lose it once. Do not compromise your beliefs and surrender it to someone who means nothing to you. You're on the right track!
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
Everyone is right. Don't give into the peer pressure. In the end, you'll regret it. Beleive me. I was 16 once....gave into the peer pressure, and only caused myself more pain in my life than I should have had because of it. Then you'll be labeled if you give in. Yes boys think about sex continuously, but they do like a girl who gives them a challenge, and one that doesn't just give it out, just to give it out. If you want to be married someday, and marry someone worthy of you, then stick to your virginal ways.
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
Yeah, don't be pressured into something....16 year old guys like me are a bit hormonal....(Actually I don't try to come on to anyone) but don't hold it against them just say, "NO"....its not as hard as people say it is.....so, continue keeping your virginity until you're ready!

~Zoo