Burn me once..Shame on you. Burn me twice...
Why are people so fucked up?
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This is gonna be a rant...
This is not about a current girlfriend (since i dont have one right now) This is about someone who recently came back into my life as a "friend"
I used to date her about 2 years ago, it wasnt the most serious realtionship i have ever had, but i did like her and enjoyed her company. My first mistake (burn me once) was i loaned her money when she was broke. Which she never paid back. That happens to some of us at some point in our lives. I'm not poor but also not obscenely wealthy either. It was an amount that i figured wasn't worth sweating over so i gave her a pass. Then she eventually moved away to another state, and i had sporadic contact with her until recently.
She called and said that she wanted to come back for some schooling. She said she had the money to pay for the tuition, room board and spending money, but was having a hard time getting up the funds for the plane ticket. Now as some of you might know, i travel about 110,000 miles a year, and rack up plenty of frequent flyer miles, flight certificates, and lots of misc. perks that us weary business travelers get. I had a flight certificate that i would probably never use anyways, so i figured i would give it to her with no strings attached, just to let her know that i didnt hold a grudge of any sort against her. I even offered to loan her my car to get to class if i wasnt using it.
So i fly home last week, and drop off my bags and head back to the airport to pick her up. She gives me a hug and i offer to take her to dinner because i was starving and figured she was too. We went out and had a nice meal, and i dropped her off where she was staying. I decided to go home and grab my motorcycle and head to the bar and go hang out with some friends. ( its rare that i get to do this because of my schedule) She shows up with her friends to the bar, which is not a big deal at all, and we hang out and eventually i started talking to another girl that i am interested in,( and i think is interested in me).
Thats when i noticed a slight change in the former girlies attutude. I really didn't think it was a big deal at the time, mainly because im a guy and were stupid like that. So the former girlie calls me the next day and we start chit chatting about this and that, and she asks me if she can use my car. I had meetings all week at the office, and (as all IT folks know) needed to use it to haul around some equipment for my boss.I told her this... And that's when she turned on me.
She starts going off on me and accussing me of having "ulterior motives" as far as giving her the plane ticket. I respond by telling her that was not the case and tried to explain to her that i didnt give her the ticket just to either bring her into town to play games with her or try to get into her panties. I considered it a random act of kindness and that my job was very important to me and that it was my vehicle to do with what i saw fit, and reminded her that i might need to use it. So she starts going off on me trying to get me to give into her and i flat out told her that it wasnt going to happen. At this time i was starting to get a little pissed off, and played out. So i tell her that i'm sorry that i couldnt do anymore than i already had and was geting tired of being accussed of things i wasn't actually doing. Eventually i had enough of it and told her that i was not gonna play the game anymore and said that maybe she shouldnt bother me if i wasnt gonna kiss her ass like she wanted, and hung up.
So a week goes by. I'm at the same bar as the previous week. Guess who comes walking through the door? Yep. So shes trying to play eye hockey with me all night and im ignoring her. At the end of the night, i offer to give a female friend (platonic) a ride home on the bike. So as i'm leaving, the former girlie comes walking up all nice with this sweet little look on her face wanting to know if i was still mad at her.
I told her i was DONE with her, and if i was mad.....she would know.
Then she has the fucking nerve to ask me what she did to piss me off.
I looked over and said..Burn me once...Shame on you...Burn me twice.....shame on me! Then i drove off.
Ladies...Does that make me a bad person, or just an idiot for helping her out in the first place?
Thank you for reading this. I feel better now
Brian
This is not about a current girlfriend (since i dont have one right now) This is about someone who recently came back into my life as a "friend"
I used to date her about 2 years ago, it wasnt the most serious realtionship i have ever had, but i did like her and enjoyed her company. My first mistake (burn me once) was i loaned her money when she was broke. Which she never paid back. That happens to some of us at some point in our lives. I'm not poor but also not obscenely wealthy either. It was an amount that i figured wasn't worth sweating over so i gave her a pass. Then she eventually moved away to another state, and i had sporadic contact with her until recently.
She called and said that she wanted to come back for some schooling. She said she had the money to pay for the tuition, room board and spending money, but was having a hard time getting up the funds for the plane ticket. Now as some of you might know, i travel about 110,000 miles a year, and rack up plenty of frequent flyer miles, flight certificates, and lots of misc. perks that us weary business travelers get. I had a flight certificate that i would probably never use anyways, so i figured i would give it to her with no strings attached, just to let her know that i didnt hold a grudge of any sort against her. I even offered to loan her my car to get to class if i wasnt using it.
So i fly home last week, and drop off my bags and head back to the airport to pick her up. She gives me a hug and i offer to take her to dinner because i was starving and figured she was too. We went out and had a nice meal, and i dropped her off where she was staying. I decided to go home and grab my motorcycle and head to the bar and go hang out with some friends. ( its rare that i get to do this because of my schedule) She shows up with her friends to the bar, which is not a big deal at all, and we hang out and eventually i started talking to another girl that i am interested in,( and i think is interested in me).
Thats when i noticed a slight change in the former girlies attutude. I really didn't think it was a big deal at the time, mainly because im a guy and were stupid like that. So the former girlie calls me the next day and we start chit chatting about this and that, and she asks me if she can use my car. I had meetings all week at the office, and (as all IT folks know) needed to use it to haul around some equipment for my boss.I told her this... And that's when she turned on me.
She starts going off on me and accussing me of having "ulterior motives" as far as giving her the plane ticket. I respond by telling her that was not the case and tried to explain to her that i didnt give her the ticket just to either bring her into town to play games with her or try to get into her panties. I considered it a random act of kindness and that my job was very important to me and that it was my vehicle to do with what i saw fit, and reminded her that i might need to use it. So she starts going off on me trying to get me to give into her and i flat out told her that it wasnt going to happen. At this time i was starting to get a little pissed off, and played out. So i tell her that i'm sorry that i couldnt do anymore than i already had and was geting tired of being accussed of things i wasn't actually doing. Eventually i had enough of it and told her that i was not gonna play the game anymore and said that maybe she shouldnt bother me if i wasnt gonna kiss her ass like she wanted, and hung up.
So a week goes by. I'm at the same bar as the previous week. Guess who comes walking through the door? Yep. So shes trying to play eye hockey with me all night and im ignoring her. At the end of the night, i offer to give a female friend (platonic) a ride home on the bike. So as i'm leaving, the former girlie comes walking up all nice with this sweet little look on her face wanting to know if i was still mad at her.
I told her i was DONE with her, and if i was mad.....she would know.
Then she has the fucking nerve to ask me what she did to piss me off.
I looked over and said..Burn me once...Shame on you...Burn me twice.....shame on me! Then i drove off.
Ladies...Does that make me a bad person, or just an idiot for helping her out in the first place?
Thank you for reading this. I feel better now
Brian
tried to manipulate you. Without being there and witnessing the whole situation I really couldn't say which it was.
