Women are from Antarctica, men are from Sahara!

mens' libido starts from mind, where do womens' start from ?

from JoeUser Forums
Women especially past middle age seems to have a very skewed sense of sensuality, arousal and libido. Whereas, for mens' even after middle age, the libido can arise from just an aroused 'mind'-remebering a past episode, or seeing a pretty girl on the way to work or just plain fantasy.

Womens' sexual urges, I have so far failed to understand. They dont respond when we need them most. They are in thier own world, when you want them to be with you physically, emotionally and sensually-they just behave like an ice block and just take things lying down. And, poor guy, he has to somehow imagine she is with him in the erotic odyssey.

At times though,unannounced, she gets aroused and behaves like a fierce tigress when you are not ready to harvest the fruits of an all-consuming love. Tried several things, kinds of foreplay, sweet nothings, even warming-up movies, but she cant be induced against her will-who says women are weak, they have rock-solid wills. It is only when she 'allows' herself that she is fully turned on, otherwise no amount of your goading will change her 'mood.

Poor men have yet to understand the other half of our species. Whats the secret to het 'heart' and 'soul. ? What is the trigger that turns her on ?

When he is in the heat of passion and she is frozen like an ice slab, what will thaw her body. What is the secret route to 'the perfumed garden' . All the kamasutras, Hite reports and Desmond Morrises also are of not much help in easing this perpetual tension between the sexes and thier differing psychologies. Who can solve the mystery of the feminine pyshe. The first person who can slove it will be like the Columbus of human sexual ladscape.

Or are all women from antarctica and all men from sahara, when one is in heat, the other will be ice-cold and never shall the twain meet ?

Men from Sahara, women from Antarctica, crazy world, this world of ours, am I right, dear fellow travelers ?

Keep blogging anyaway !
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
The only time I have had problems with arousal has been when the partner in question isn't particularly skilled. Just a thought...
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
Nice reply, are you a guy or lady ?
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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
are you a guy or lady ?


She's all woman
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
SJ, you mean you or Floozie, and what do you think about my ideas in this blog ?
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
Speaking as a woman who is like the Sahara desert, I'd guess you need to slow down and quit dry humping her leg...

they just behave like an ice block and just take things lying down. And, poor guy, he has to somehow imagine she is with him in the erotic odyssey


That is a horrible precedent. If she's acting like an ice block - STOP. She's not an inflatable love doll. Quit using her like one.

no amount of your goading will change her 'mood.


Right - goading someone into the big O? Not gonna work, at least not without a few whips and chains.

Sex (bad sex) can be selfish pursuit, where everyone is after their own pleasure. But GOOD sex is gained by learning what pleases your partner enought to drive them over the edge and keep them there. Your pleasure will be greatly intensified if you learn to call the tigress. My suggestion would be to ASK her what she likes, to TALK about it in a way that doesn't put anyone down (not you, not her), and to actually LISTEN and IMPLEMENT what you have learned.
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
Nice observation, slybutshy1958.

I hear you.

And thanks for the great advice.
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
SJ, you mean you or Floozie, and what do you think about my ideas in this blog ?


We are both ladies. I have to agree with everything sly said regarding this article. To be with someone on a sexual and emotional level, takes two wiling partners, who understand each other, and are willing to make each other happy, and work together to do so. There has to be give and take. Just like any relationship. If the lady isn't responding, that is for a reason. Talk it over, sort it out. Don't presume that is just the way women are. We love sex with the best of them
Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
Nice post,SJ. Useful comments,thanks. Maybe I must try to understand womens' psychology better, any ideas to start with ?
Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top
hint #1-- strive to understand the psychology of the woman you are with instead of women's psychology. We are all very different and enjoy being treated as individuals.

hint #2--find out what makes her laugh and then implement it, but be sincere. As a kid I never understood the giggling coming from my parents' room in the middle of the night--now I do.
Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top
hint #3 - learn to feel secure and comfortable in yourself. When you've got a strong and sensual heart, sexual energies - physically and emotionaly - begin to flow like milk and honey. To the sex-buds, it's like the taste of nectar.
Reply #11 from JoeUser Forums Top
Hmmm, #hint4: with understanding of mutual psychology-even women need to understand mens' psyche,right?-men can be from Sahara and women women also from Arabian desert, am I right. Thanks to all of you for the nice feedback. It's like the very vitamin for further blogging, amigos!