It's All About Something

that i'm not getting

from JoeUser Forums
I don't know if its the weather again, but I've been feeling kinda.... lonely, for lack of a better word.

Maybe it's because my days are now getting kind of repetitive that I've caught myself thinking a lot about sex; who I've been with, who was the best and why, who I wouldn't mind getting to know better. At 34, you would think that I would have a good idea about what I like and what I am looking for, but I've never been more confused in my life.

I dig intellectual guys, but overly intelligent guys sort of frighten me. I can zone out with the best of them, but people who spend a lot of time in thought often scare me when they come up with a whopper of an idea, or throw out a quote at random that actually makes perfect sense. As far as looks go, I don't think that it really matters a whole lot to me. There are general types that are attractive to me, but I've reconsidered people later, who I know I wasn't into before.

No, as far as sex goes, it is about the relationship, I guess. I'm past one night stands. Not that they are not fun, occasionally, but I don't really see the point. I've yet to hear of a good point that might make me reconsider my stance on it, either, aside from the instant gratification of it. I'm not big into dating either, because I have an awful lot of time commitments, lately.

I don't know where I am actually going with all of this; I just know that I'm not going anywhere, if I don't change my current position about it all.

BTW, I know I write about this subject quite a bit, but hell... sometimes it's all I can think about. Especially during a heat wave.
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
Relationships with out a doubt are just plain confusing, no doubt about it, I relate to so many of the things you said there. Guys that are intelligent, BIG yes, but to intelligent just scares me! *sigh* I think half the fun is the not knowing what is around the next corner, I'd say it's a subject that alot of us think about on a regular basis!
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
You know, I've never had a one night stand? I have had enough offers that it has been a viable option (really, who hasn't?) but I don't think I could go through with it. A friend of mine almost LIVES for them. She says that they are so great as you aren't ever embarrassed as you don't know the person so you can really let loose. The thing is, I really let loose when I DO know the person and know them well. When I am comfortable with them. But I guess it all comes down to personality in the end.

I know what you mean about the intellectual guys. I am a pretty smart cookie myself, but there is such a thing as being a little too academic (for me, anyway). I like someone who can hold their own in the department of grey matter, but they can't always exist up there. Come down to the gutter and visit me every now and again.

It's also funny how looks become less and less important as a relationship matures. They are a great drawcard, but it's kind of like the interior design of a restaurant. It looks pretty and you may notice it at the start, but within a few minutes of being there, you are only concerned about what you can really get your teeth into.

I hope you're not sweltering too much (where are you? We're apparently having summer in London, but I still appear to be in jeans and a jumper, so I think someone's fibbing!)

Suz xxx
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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
Sally and Suz,
I've been pretty focused on the subject of men for some time now; I had always thought that you learned more as you grow older, and for all that it seems, I actually feel like I know less about relationships than I ever did.
I'm from Ontario, and we've been having a heat wave. I'm not impressed. Then again, I'm not wishing for snow just yet, either.
Take care!