Why Are Guys Such Fucking Retards?

Women please answer too...

from JoeUser Forums
Suprise! I'm a guy! And now I'm gonna pretty much rant and rave about it and why we are fucking idiots. No I'm not a feminist, so all you bull dykes can foget it I'm not switching teams. I've been in this situation before, you piss off the love of your life, be it girlfriend, fiancee, wife, or whatever it maybe if you're homosexual instead of hetero. Anyway you're in trouble, you KNOW why your in trouble, but you do what every guy in the history of mankind has done, more than once, no less than fifteen times, that should cover most bases, anyway the one thing we do is.... (women chime in if you want now)...
MAKE IT WORSE!

Im no acception to this rule. So the question is, why am I such a fucking MORON? I should have shot myself in the foot and saved myself the trouble. Why do we do stupid shit to make it worse, is it in our genes? Is it a birth-right someone failed to mention when they were going over my contract? Now with all humor aside, I seriously want to know why we do it. It's like we do it to sabatoge our own relationships.

Why the fuck would we do that, men are so self-defeative! Or at least I am. I dont know why I do it, I dont. Maybe I need therapy or something. It's Just I do shit at the totally wrong time, everything would be perfect and Ka-Boom! O go and fuck it up. Again and again, it doesnt matter what it is, I am pretty much set to fuck it up. And it's not like I do things small either, oh no, it's not like I forget our anniversary, no I do it far worse. My girlfriend is pissed at me for Days, not a few hours and we make up and are all smiles again... no no, Days, like a full working week, that's how bad I mess it up. And I dont mean to either, we have talked about it, and I have gotten better, but just when you think you have it made, BANG! Fucked it up. So I aske these questions...

Why am I so fucking retarded and am I the only one that does this? Should I actively seek therapy?

Adios!!
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
Ok - here is the thing... Guys are self-defeatist... but no more than chicks... that is the truth...

for every problem we have in relationships, chicks have them as well... If i see you beating yourself up any more over this, I will be very dissapointed!

BAM!!!
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
Actually, it helps to let it out. Do your best to understand what drives us to screw up so often. I think I got myself figured out just today, after a month of this stuff. And just one week of blogging how I felt was enough to help
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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
That's easily answered ...because they're male

Jess
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
Mark your in Melbourne.... its not like you will know... but then again I think we all know what will happen I will eventually beat the living shit out of myself because I dont want to love that awesomely amazing woman that I do have but I fear I will
The question now is should I really actually seek therapy?
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
First its "why are guys such retards", then ya whittle it down to "why am I such a fuckin retard?"
Which is it?
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
I mean do... I do love my woman
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
I find the title of the article objectionable, as well as the language within.
Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
Hmmm ..you found the title objectionable ...so then opened the post and read it?
Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top

Yes.  That is what I did.


If I find something "objectionable," it doesn't mean I necessarily avoid it.  Putting swear words in a title is an effective way to divert traffic into one's post.


That said: I think that the use of objectionable language in titles should be avoided.  The titles of recent and commented-upon articles show up on everyone's weblogs.

Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top
blacklist him then Jamie... or just get over it...

Action Jay - that was very well said... Its the guys that know that they are retarded that are the genuine ones!!! I am just saying we are no worse than chicks...

BAM!!!
Reply #11 from JoeUser Forums Top
Speaking as a chick that is perfectly capable of fuking things up at a moments notice, I feel for you! It isn't just men, though I would like to think they are slightly worse, but I am also guilty of these traits, I do something to mess up and then just seem to make it worse, and worse, till someone takes pity on me and realises I am, as are guys, retarded, hehe! Oh yes....therapy sounds good, if only for self indulgence!
Reply #12 from JoeUser Forums Top
well as for the therapy thing goes I was being serious... I dont want shit messing up my realtionship... I have found one woman that totally completes me in everyway... but I think if I am to ever get over this defeative behavior and stop messing up the relationship because I really do love her and this relationship is so wonderful that therapy really would be something that I want to do.
Thomas
Reply #13 from JoeUser Forums Top

Well, therapy might help...but what are you doing to fuck things up?  Having been married for over 10 years I can tell you that fuck-up's happen.  They're part of being human, of having a human relationship. 


It all depends on what you're doing to fuck things up. 

Reply #14 from JoeUser Forums Top
Well for one... I do things that I know will upset her... I KNOW they will but I do them anyway... Its like I know they will I just kow it shes told me before but out of the blue I do it anyway... and its fucking irritating the shit out of me... I dont want to upset her I want her to be happy everyday.. I want her to smile and laugh and all... but I do it and its liek goddamn it why did I do that and to be honest most of the time I dont know why I just do it... I am a stupid person. In other words... I value this relationship over pretty much everything in my life it literally is all important to me and that is why I want to do something even if it is therapy to fix it... I dont like therapy been there before not for this though but if this is what it take then so be it... she means everything to me... ya know
Reply #15 from JoeUser Forums Top
I do things that I know will upset her... I KNOW they will but I do them anyway... Its like I know they will I just kow it shes told me before but out of the blue I do it anyway... and its fucking irritating the shit out of me


Are you testing her to see how much she will put up with?
Reply #16 from JoeUser Forums Top
Cann1bal.... remember this the very next time you are about to fuck up:

"Those who cannot remember the past, are condemned to repeat it"

You must have at least a short conscious moment just before you do whatever it is you do to screw up, where you realise that what you are about to do is wrong. This is where you should think about that line above.

You know you upset her last time you did it...... so remember you did it, and remember her reaction to it.
Hopefully it will stop you doing it again.

If you are subconsciously testing her limits or tolerance, eventually you will succeed in finding it,
~and you won't like the result.

Wreckless.
Reply #17 from JoeUser Forums Top
Nicky... If I knew that I wouldnt be looking for Therapy now would I?

Heya Wanker you ! Good point its like you almost in away answer Nicky's commentation there and your right may be, but then again I dont know as I said before////maybe Im not asking myself the right questions... and not seeking the right answers.

Thomas