TRUST.. Either you do or you don't

While reading and responding to another article... https://forums.joeuser.com/?Forumid=94&AID=157214 ..The discussion about trust came up and I decided MORE needs to be said about the issue, so here I am asking the question.

Is trust to you a 100% kind of thing? It is to me, Either I trust someone or I don't. period.

I hear people saying "oh yes I trust so and so except for...[ add anything you want to this sentence]

To ME this shows one thing and one thing only, that the person talking DOES NOT TRUST THE PERSON THEY ARE TALKING ABOUT!

How do you see TRUST?

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That's why the question is, "Do you trust me?" and not "How much do you trust me?"

"How much do you trust me?"
"Oh, about 8."
"..."
"What?"
"Just 8?"
"Out of 9!"
"Well I trust you a zillion out of 9!"
"You're too trusting. You need to cut back."
"Why, have you done something wrong?"
"No, but I haven't done everything in my whole entire LIFE right."
"Did you cheat on me?"
"No! But I did tell you you didn't look fat in that dress."
And so on. Having a trust rating would only make things worse. Now it's easy!

"Do you trust me?"
"Yes."

End of conversation.

Of course, my wife can trust me to say she looks great no matter what she's wearing. Because she asks, "How do I look?" Not, "How do I look in these clothes?" So I say, "You look great honey!" because I know what she looks like without them!
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(Citizen)JythierJuly 12, 2007 15:51:45


"Do you trust me?"
"Yes."

End of conversation.


excellent! short and right on the money far as I am concerned anyway. Maybe others have differing opinions.
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So I say, "You look great honey!" because I know what she looks like without them!


That is a double entendre' if I ever saw one!

But I too like your answer. End of conversation.
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I don't know. I think there can be degrees of trust. Trust with reservations. I guess you have a point. It's just another way of saying you don't trust someone without being totally blunt about it.
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(Citizen)Dr GuyJuly 12, 2007 16:24:48


That is a double entendre' if I ever saw one!

But I too like your answer. End of conversation


it was, but his answer was what I was looking for. an either trust or no trust.

you doc seem to be on the same page.
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LocamamaJuly 12, 2007 16:57:29


I don't know. I think there can be degrees of trust. Trust with reservations. I guess you have a point. It's just another way of saying you don't trust someone without being totally blunt about it.


it's true Amy "degrees of trust" is just how you ended your comment. No trust at all, just Amy {sugar} coated
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BTW EVERYONE TODAY IS MY 6TH MONTH BIRTHDAY, NO TOBACCO OF ANY KIND SINCE THE COMA JANUARY 12TH 2007
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BTW EVERYONE TODAY IS MY 6TH MONTH BIRTHDAY, NO TOBACCO OF ANY KIND SINCE THE COMA JANUARY 12TH 2007


Woo hoo! I bet your lungs are so grateful. And think of how much money you saved. You should go buy yourself a present to celebrate.
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BTW EVERYONE TODAY IS MY 6TH MONTH BIRTHDAY, NO TOBACCO OF ANY KIND SINCE THE COMA JANUARY 12TH 2007


Congrats! I trust it has been very good for you.

I agree, either you trust someone or you don't. If you have reservations then you don't in fact trust them.

I trust Murphy's Law without reservation.
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LocamamaJuly 12, 2007 18:52:01


Woo hoo! I bet your lungs are so grateful. And think of how much money you saved. You should go buy yourself a present to celebrate.


This weekend I am going to buy me some new clothes, the size 40's I have been wearing just are way to big, so here comes some nice new size 35 or 36's.

weight loss.. was 245-255 now am 202-206 yaaahooooo
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MasonMJuly 12, 2007 18:55:16Reply #1


Congrats! I trust it has been very good for you.

I agree, either you trust someone or you don't. If you have reservations then you don't in fact trust them.


seems like the 100% trust em are the winners here for now anyways.
Like the title says either you do or you don't.

How is the house moving going?

ready to give up your address?

Ask shades {meg} I give good housewarming.. heh heh heh
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MasonMJuly 12, 2007 18:55:16Reply #1


Congrats! I trust it has been very good for you.

I agree, either you trust someone or you don't. If you have reservations then you don't in fact trust them.


seems like the 100% trust em are the winners here for now anyways.
Like the title says either you do or you don't.

How is the house moving going?

ready to give up your address?

Ask shades {meg} I give good housewarming.. heh heh heh


The move is complete but the putting stuff away and organizing is hard damn work.

Didn't I email you my address earlier today? At least I thought I did, but I've been so disorganized with this move I'm not sure now

I'll email it again just in case.
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I'd like to say that I can trust a person with certain things and not when it comes to other things. But come to think of it, I have to say, if a person is proven unworthy of trust, it is just difficult to trust them in other areas.
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Ask shades {meg} I give good housewarming.. heh heh heh


not just good -- brilliant. I'm telling you, you won't regret it!

As for trust (which I am defining as "confident expectation"), I think you can trust for different things. For example, I trust that my neighbors will keep an eye on my place and let me know if there is something wrong or something that I should be aware of, but I wouldn't trust them with the keys to my condo. Whereas my best friend, I would definitely trust with the keys, but I don't trust her to show up anywhere on time.

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Reply By: RavenblackPosted: Thursday, July 12, 2007
I'd like to say that I can trust a person with certain things and not when it comes to other things. But come to think of it, I have to say, if a person is proven unworthy of trust, it is just difficult to trust them in other areas.

sounds like a convoluted way of saying "I don't trust so and so?"

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Reply By: shadesofgreyPosted: Thursday, July 12, 2007
Ask shades {meg} I give good housewarming.. heh heh heh


not just good -- brilliant. I'm telling you, you won't regret it!

As for trust (which I am defining as "confident expectation"), I think you can trust for different things. For example, I trust that my neighbors will keep an eye on my place and let me know if there is something wrong or something that I should be aware of, but I wouldn't trust them with the keys to my condo. Whereas my best friend, I would definitely trust with the keys, but I don't trust her to show up anywhere on time.

Ah HA! finally a nay sayer. You are using trust in its most vague sense, 'I trust the mailman to deliver my mail' " I trust the grocery store to have food'' I am using the word in its finite sense as In I trust this person or not. person, not place or thing or situations.

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"I trust him as far as I can throw him"...haha, that kind of implies degrees of trust (how far can you throw him?), but I guess really the meaning is: I don't trust him.

I don't know if trust is absolute.

I agree with Shades that it could be very situational. Are you asking do you trust someone in every single circumstance possible? Because if that's the question, there is NO ONE I trust, LOL.
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My favorite line was, "I trust him as far as I can smell him." "That would imply a considerable amount of trust, sir!"
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Reply By: Texas WahinePosted: Friday, July 13, 2007
"I trust him as far as I can throw him"...haha, that kind of implies degrees of trust (how far can you throw him?), but I guess really the meaning is: I don't trust him.

I don't know if trust is absolute.

I agree with Shades that it could be very situational. Are you asking do you trust someone in every single circumstance possible? Because if that's the question, there is NO ONE I trust, .

Not even your mom and pops, Adrian?

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Reply By: JythierPosted: Friday, July 13, 2007
My favorite line was, "I trust him as far as I can smell him." "That would imply a considerable amount of trust, sir!"

What movie is that from?

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Just to make things perfectly clear, I do mean as tex said "trust in any and all situations" is trust then 100% or not?

 

I trust Colleen completely, without reservations, Same with Michele, who use to blog here as gimpyone before her eyesight went so bad she can no longer see the screen. To get spiritual I trust GOD without reservation also.

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It's from a book, Brothers in Arms by Margaret Weis (I think). It's part of DragonLance's Raistlin Chronicles.