War comes calling

Again.

I, as I'm sure a good proportion of the American public are, have become somewhat unaffected by all the images of war and conflict pouring out of Iraq these days. We're exposed to it on a daily basis; it's easy to become immune to photos of blood, battle and gore. Every newspaper and news channel shows so much of it, so many scenes of death and destruction that I tend to just not take much notice anymore.

Until this morning. I logged into MSNBC and was confronted with an image that made me hitch in my breath and stop what I was going to do. It was another reminder of the human face of this conflict, one that I had convieniently managed to compartmentalize after the bombing of Balad where I thought that I had lost friends and colleagues.

This photo is relatively simple, but very powerful nonetheless. It's a kevlar helmet. Bloodied and torn, laying on a road. You can see it for yourself:

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Why does this bother me so much? Because I've seen my husband's head in one of those. I've worn one of those, I've held one, I've had one sitting in my house on my husband's dresser. I've seen those things in regular use around my 'hometown'; the base that I live on. As a matter of fact, there's an exercise going on this week and everyone's walking around in chemical gear wearing gas masks and kevlar helmets. It's a common thing, pretty much everyone who's active duty has one regardless of their job title or rank. We all make jokes about 'turtle shells' on people's heads; my kids have all gone up and rapped their knuckles on my husband's helmet and agreed that it's harder and heavier than it looked.

That's why I found it to powerful...because it's something I can relate to seeing daily. All too often the pictures coming out of Iraq are alien to us; they're of a foreign land that most of have never been too. What we know about the terrain, the country, the culture is just what we've learnt in school or have been told by the media. It's easy to remove ourselves from it because it IS so far away.

This hit pretty close to home for me. Again.
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When I heard that the psyops reservists were going to the war and that their stays were longer than a year because of their skills, it hit home. My son was in the psyops. He is no longer active and has health issues that would prevent him going but still I knew that other mother's sons were there. For you it has to be much closer, since he is there.
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Very touching article Dharma. Everyone has something different that brings it home to them. I also thought it brave of you to admit that you are desensitized about the war. I found myself clicking through channels last night and bypassing the latest stuff about the war. I then stopped and thought "Our guys don't have the option of taking a break from participating, I shouldn't take a break from watching and listening."
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I wonder, if I wasn't a frequent blogger, how much of the war I would actually hear about. I mean, Canada recieves the same coverage as you do, but I don't have TV at home. I read my local paper and generally keep up to date on Canadian issues, but as far as listening daily about war and the States... nada. I don't go out of my way to read about it, but have thought about it more often, because of yours, and other bloggers who write about these things. It's easy to say that it's not my country, but I'd be a fool to suggest that we aren't affected by what happens to you guys.
Peace.
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I AM desensitized, partly because I live this stuff. I see it and hear about it everywhere I look: wives on base talking about their husbands being gone, more deployments to here and there, friends talking about other friends in Iraq or 'the sandbox'. It's all just a part of daily life for me...something that I got used to. It's not until I hear or see things that strike particularly close to home that I really stop and think about it...and then I'm left incredibly saddened by it all.

That helmet in the picture...that was protecting someone's head. Someone's kid, someone's brother, or sister or friend. The blood that's on it...that came from a living, breathing, speaking, thinking, PERSON. A human being. Could have been someone you know. Could easily BE someone you know if this drags on long enough and the draft is reinstated...shit, if that happens, it could be YOU.

This war has been portrayed as a game of logistics in the media thus far. It's all about troop movements, and what we're going to do next and where. 'We're going to take Falluja'...yeah, but who's 'we'? Is the President going to go strap on a kevlar helmet, grab an M-16 and go? No. 'We' are people. Real people.

How many of you stop to think about what '10 GI's killed today' really means? Think about it like this: imagine 10 people you know. Now imagine them dead. All at once. Now imagine how many lives their death will affect in addition to your own. It would be pretty easy to get up into the hundreds, wouldn't it? And that's just from the deaths of 10 soldiers/ sailors/airmen.

Like I said, it's all so incredibly sad.
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My wife is trying to volunteer for deployment and even as proud as I am of her and even over the slight envy I have, I still feel a bit of fear that she will suceed in her quest.
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I still feel a bit of fear that she will suceed in her quest.


And if you didn't feel that fear I don't think you'd be human, grey.

It's a scary fucking thing, all this conflict and fighting.
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Dharma--

I've been mulling this over all day--I've probably re-read it 5 times. Both my dad and my brother are military, so I oscilate between being desensitized and having it hit home on a regular basis. I work hard trying to acheive perspective, to truly understand the sacrifice, but fall well short all the time. Thanks for a thought provoking article.

How many of you stop to think about what '10 GI's killed today' really means? Think about it like this: imagine 10 people you know. Now imagine them dead. All at once. Now imagine how many lives their death will affect in addition to your own. It would be pretty easy to get up into the hundreds, wouldn't it? And that's just from the deaths of 10 soldiers/ sailors/airmen.


It's almost inconceivable. My mind can not begin to comprehend such a loss.
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I oscilate between being desensitized and having it hit home on a regular basis.


And that's EXACTLY how I feel. I'm so glad someone else understands!
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These Pictures and article is something I found quite disturbing...

When someone else tortures, they are a dictator and need to be removed... good old American double standards... Make sure you scroll down and look at the Iraqi standing on a box with wires pertruding from his limbs - he was told if he moved from the box he would be electrocuted... but its all in the name of freedom.. so that makes it ok?

Sorry... Its a bit of a tangent, but these images are the ones i find most disturbing...

BAM!!!
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I found them disturbing too, Muggaz.

I'm pro-humanity as far as war and conflict go.
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Muggaz - The difference is that in that very article the people responsible are being prosecuted. The *people* did this atrocity not the Government. Wehn the crime was found out the people got punished. Even though the headline and caption of this article go out of their way to slant opinion against the country, the country didn't do it.
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I too have been skipping over the media coverage of the war lately. I think it is for two reasons. First, if I go past it fast I think there is a part of me that doesn't have to think about it. Second, I think I am afraid of being reminded just how personal it is for some people.

Thanks for the reminder dharmagrl. There are some amazing people making some amazing sacrifices. Real people with real stories that may never be told. I hope I can remember that with every one of these stories I see.
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True, but the soldiers are seen correctly as representatives of the United States by the occupied. They see one american acting, they assume albeit incorrectly that all americans act that way.

Yes, the soldiers are being punished, as they should be, but the actions of a few can have tremendous impact on the many.

IG
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I apologize for helping to contribute to what could have been a hijacking of this thread. My apologies again dharma
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It's ok, grey. No biggie. This one isn't as personal as the last one, so I'm not too worried about it getting off-subject.

Thanks for the apology, though.
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Mr. Sulu, we're off course!
Sorry Captain!

Sorry... back on topic... pictues...

They are very powerful things. A visual representation of what is or what could be. My big "moment of sadness" is usually unexpected. I will be watching a movie or a show and they will show a shot of the NYC skyline and show what is not there anymore, and I just look, remeber the other, more graphic images and be sad.

Then you see pictures of women in Iraq reading and teaching. Soldiers and Iraqis working together. Those are also important.

I guess you have to see both the good and the bad to understand what is going on.

IG
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Actually, my point was more about my being desensitized until something like the image I saw today smacks me back into reality. Last time I got smacked back like this was when the base my friends are at got bombed.

That, and the abundance of idealology and lack of understanding that people are dying pisses me off.
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Sorry again. But you do have a good point. Desensitization is always a problem. Your mind does become "hardened" to the images.

I do not know what the solution is. Too many pictures you get hard, too few, there is no impact.

IG
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I found myself becoming desensitized latley, and then i was watching the news and they showed a little ice cream social for military families with a parent oversees. And seeing all those kids drawing "I miss you" pictures, hit me HARD, I was bawling in no time. I agree with you that we need to think of all these men and women as not just soldiers, but as parents, children and loved ones.
Bless you Dharma!
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Yes this deserves a top rating from all of us.