You've really been letting yourself go lately

(Mommy Blog)

"You've really been letting yourself go lately. "

Yes, my husband actually said that to me a couple weeks ago. I kindly reminded him that I'm pregnant. And that he did it to me.

Of course he was only joking though. We share a bitterly sarcastic sense of humor. So after barking back at him, how could I help but to laugh at the absurdity of it all?





I weighed 115 before this all started. Then at 17 weeks (left picture) I probably weighed a bit more.

Now at 32 weeks I'm 139 POUNDS!! (right picture). It's a bit uncomfortable. Can't lay on my back anymore (even though the doctor said it's OK to do that until I feel uncomfortable.) That's been refreshing to know since during my first pregnancy I was paranoid of laying on my back.

See, I love to lay on my back, and if I lay in any other position at night I wake up with stiff, tingly limbs, a wicked neck & backache. But now that my little parcel is getting heavier I can feel instant circulation restriction somewhere in my body when I lay on my back. So now I shift from left to right, enduring the stiff tingly limbs and wicked neck & backaches throughout the night and every morning. Ugh.

Can't wait to squeeze this parcel outta me. But soon enough I'll be carrying it around in my arms and it will not let me sleep peacefully for the next three years. My little boy has just recently started to sleep through the night. Now here we go again. By the way, I am a mega sleep connoisseur. So this sleep deprivation thing is no laughing matter to me.

Anybody want to babysit a baby every night for the next few years? Haha. Don't y'all volunteer at once now.

Well I got myself into this, so I must face the consequences of raising this child for the next 18 years, plus the rest of my life when the child has trouble adjusting in the adult world and insists on living at home until the age of 30 or beyond. Y'know kids these days. Sheesh.

But of course there are huge joys. I experience them every day. I love my little dude that we already have. He's made me a better person. And he sure is neat.

Now I'm 32 weeks pregnant. So how much longer...? SEVEN MORE WEEKS! Yup, in shortly over a month I will be a repeat offender as a mother. Let's hope I've learned something from the first go-around that I might be able to apply to the next baby.

One thing I'm going to try is POTTY TRAINING FROM THE AGE OF ZERO. Yup, apparently it can be done. And if I'm patient enough to get through it, it should save us a mint on diapers.

My sister-in-law did it with her little boy. He just turned one, and according to her, he rarely, if ever, soils a diaper. He's conditioned to wait until he's sittin' on the potty. She watches for his signals, is familiar with his potty cycles, and takes him to the loo frequently.

Now that he'll be walking soon, I bet she's looking forward to having him walk his own sweet self to the toilet. And one day soon he just might pull down his own drawers and wipe his own tush. Then voila! It will be a potty training success.

Sure, that method of potty training takes two years or so, but again, my aim here is to avoid the expense of diapers. THEY'RE EXPENSIVE!! And I want to avoid changing nasty diapers as much as possible. I can't tell you how many times I've lost my lunch during diaper changes. Just can't bear to go through that again.

Another thing I'm going to aim for with this child is to really push VEGETABLES! See, the error that we and millions of other parents have made is being so concerned that the wee kid turns his nose up at anything remotely healthy, that they give in to the child's natural liking for sweets and breads. After trying for what seemed like FOREVER to get our 9-month-old to take anything besides formula, my husband finally got him to down the greater portion of a jar of sweet potatoes. Then he fell in love with jars of peaches. As for vegetables...? He'd spit out peas like he was Linda Blair. Thankfully his head didn't spin around. But we gradually gave up on vegetables. It was too painful and wasteful. And heck, I don't really like 'em either.

But vegetables do make me feel good an hour or so after I've eaten them. It's a feeling so good that it's definitely worth the comparatively bland taste of vegetables. But how do you explain that to a baby? You can't. You can just offer them nothing but veggies. Once they master the veggies, ever so cautiously introduce the fruit and hope to God that the child will ever try another vegetable again.

Sigh.

Yesterday I tried to make vegetables fun for Michael...Hubby & I spent over an hour concocting open-face egg salad sandwiches with veggie funny faces on top. I kinda guessed he wouldn't actually eat them, so I made sure to at least take a picture.



Sure 'nuf, he loved helping me make them, and then he loved LOOKING at them, but he refused to put a single thing in his mouth. Except for an olive slice. He loves olives. No problem there.



So my plan for introducing veggies to our baby, when the time comes, is to put some yummy avocado into one of these thingy's:




My all-or-nothing plan there is to refuse the child any other solid foods until it takes to veggies. Yup. That's my idealistic, unrealistic plan!

Another plan is to never ever EVER give the child juice. See, once my son got a taste of juice, he's never accepted anything else. Then his teeth rotted and we had to take him to the dentist, get him sedated, have at least 7 cavities filled, and all that cost over $600. Thank goodness nowadays dentists can fill cavities with tooth-colored enamel. No more of that silver stuff. BUT CHILDREN SHOULD NOT HAVE TO GO THROUGH THAT!! Since I'm an all-or-nothing type of gal, I say, NO JUICE OR SWEETS EVER for our second little munchkin. EVER. Ha.

By the way, we really aren't sure of the child's gender. That's why I've been referring to it without regard to gender. Since my pregnancy has been going peachy, we don't get any more insurance-covered ultrasounds. The first and only ultrasound we had done, the babe was laying with its feet curled up, covering the crucial area. The techinician worked for a long time to get the baby to scooch a little...and at one point we saw something like a little hot-dog-bun type of genitalia...y'know, like a little girl, but it was such a fuzzy image, even the technician wouldn't tell me he was sure of anything. My husband said if it was a girl we would have been able to see the ovaries, but I'm not sure if the technician had it zoomed in that far inside the baby.

Hope it's another boy so we won't have to go shopping. I hate shopping.

But either way it will be OK. If it's a girl we'll just buy her a pink bow to put on her head, then dress her in all the stuff we used for Michael. We were rich back then but we're peniless now. So we'll just have a little tomboy until we get rich again some day to buy her all the pink frilly things she's expected to wear.

On that note, I have a way of questioning everything. I say, why on earth should we fall prey to buying the kid all kinds of baby paraphernalia? I learned last time that all the baby really needs it to be kept warm, fed, safe, happy, and very very loved. I can do that. And it shouldn't cost much. All the baby toys we bought for Michael, he scarecly touched until he was much older. So I ain't falling into that trap this time. Babies do NOT NEED all those bright, colorful, EXPENSIVE toys. They'll develop dexterity, visual acuity and intelligence just the same way people have been developing it since the beginning of time: by existing.

On questioning everything, I don't even believe we need a separate bedroom for the baby or even a crib. We didn't even use a crib for our son. Don't get me wrong: we HAD a crib for him, but he never slept in it. He slept with us. We all slept a lot better that way. We're just odd I guess. But we're happy with that arrangement, and couldn't imagine separating the kids from the parents. People did it in the olden days, and some primitive cultures still have "family beds." So call us primitive. When I think of putting a baby in a crib it makes me sad because it's like a prison. We don't have pets, and our house & bed is safe (no frame, headboard, or footboard). So there's no need to imprison the poor child in a crib. Oh, and I don't plan on rolling over and crushing the baby. Even in my sleep I'm well aware there's a baby near me. I'm already familiar with such nay-sayers as Dr. Sears.com, and this one too. We've had no problem with co-sleeping before. Our lifestyle and family style is suited to such a choice. We'll just get one of these thingy's:



We've already got a bouncer and a groovy exersaucer that my son totally loved, and still loves. We've got baby backpacks, papooses. ...

I ain't doin' any more shopping. Sorry kid.

OK, maybe a little. Like a wet wipe warmer. Twenty or thirty bucks though. What a scam. But it will be winter time when this little child is born, so cold wipes on a tush can't be any fun.

And a soft foam baby-contoured mat for taking baths.

You know what? I'm so glad we've got a Wal*Mart now. And a Target. Oh, the stuff they have for babies! Our last baby was born in Germany and there were so many things we needed that just simply didn't exist at any store there. And I'm not a big online shopper. It can be dangerously addictive and way too easy to spend way too much money. And paying for shipping....? Forget it.

'Nuf rambling. Bye now. "
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If that is letting go, you are doing great!  Hang in there, just a few more weeks!  And looking good!
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I must face the consequences of raising this child for the next 18 years, plus the rest of my life when the child has trouble adjusting in the adult world and insists on living at home until the age of 30 or beyond. Y'know kids these days. Sheesh.

,  you must have read my article from last night called "I Love You"!!

It's amazing isn't it how much stuff is out there for babies?

I used cloth diapers for my first baby,  my daughter,  and the same for my son when he was born.  We only bought Pampers if we were going away to visit family and/or friends.  It sure saves a lot!  Not much fun I know.

 

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Ah Angela you're looking pretty good! I think hubby was just pulling your legs!!

I found myself laughing throughout your blog while reading! You're funny you know! Hey you're not primitive. I did that with all three of my kids, they slept with us for a while. Much easier on us because after several weeks of bleary-eyed sleepless nights, we couldn't deal with it. Plus my fear of SIDS was humongous! My parents did it with all of us and there were six of us. Not the end of the world in my book and we are (siblings and I) as well as my kids are pretty well-adjusted. If anything we bonded more too!

I can't blame you about the shopping part. Hey, at least you have toys and stuff to pass down. Plus I never refused hand me downs that were in good condition, no pride in saying no when friends were being helpful. And these were friends who loved to shop and had lots of nice stuff too.

I'm glad your pregnancy is going well.
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Geeze Angela,

If I didn't know better your pictures look alot like me and my first son Bobby. I had to do a double take here. He was just a blond as I was dark. I also started out at 110 and ended up at 142...pretty much the same with all three.

If you continue like me you'll end up with another boy, but this one will be a dark headed one with a totally different temperment.....exact opposite of the first.

I was told to introduce veggies first before the fruits came in. I have a picture of feeding my one month old Gerber peas with green all over his face and loving it. Maybe that's why my kids did okay with the veggies. The meat was more of a tough sell for us.

Take care of yourself.

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You look fab, Angela. It doesn't look like you've put on anything but baby weight. Congrats.

Here's something to make you feel much better, LOL. This is me at 32 weeks:



And I haven't seen 139 on the scale in YEARS, much less during pregnancy!

I've read about Elimination Communication. It basically amounts to toilet-training the adult instead of the child as infants do not physically have control of their bowels. I wouldn't have time for it, but I do hope it works out well for you.

Also, a great way to introduce healthy veggies is with breastfeeding. Baby gets a taste for all the good things in mommy's diet from early on and learns to appreciate lots of different tastes. Young infants (up to at LEAST 4 months, but often 6 months or older) should have breastmilk exclusively as their little bodies are not yet ready for cereals or "baby food".

Anyways, you look wonderful and your little boy is just precious. Congrats!
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If that is letting go, you are doing great! Hang in there, just a few more weeks! And looking good!


Ooh, I love a little positive affirmation! Thank you

It's amazing isn't it how much stuff is out there for babies?


Yes, TOO much stuff. It's enough to make a parent's head dizzy. I prefer to "mentally shop", meaning that as I go about daily life and have a need for something, I make a note of it (even if it's something that doesn't exist, but should) then I go shopping for it. Rather than getting all crazy shopping where suddenly everything looks like a necessity. That's a trap I try to stay out of.

I used cloth diapers for my first baby, my daughter, and the same for my son when he was born. We only bought Pampers if we were going away to visit family and/or friends. It sure saves a lot!


I would LOVE to do that but....I've heard well-meaning, modern parents who've tried that method and it was really really hard for them. If it was hard for THEM (hard-working, ambitious people), then I'd probably go insane.

Not much fun I know.
You summed it up. But congrats to you for sticking it out with cloth diapers. That's highly commendable.

looking pretty good!


Oh, thank you. I'll drink up all the positive affirmation people will offer as I continue to swell...

I think hubby was just pulling your legs!
Yes, I went back and edited that part to clarify that he was purely jesting. See, he read the original draft and was a little hurt that it seemed I was suggesting he'd insult me. So I fixed it. (Sorry, my sweet hubby!)

Hey you're not primitive. I did that with all three of my kids, they slept with us for a while. Much easier on us because after several weeks of bleary-eyed sleepless nights, we couldn't deal with it...My parents did it with all of us and there were six of us. Not the end of the world in my book and we are (siblings and I) as well as my kids are pretty well-adjusted. If anything we bonded more too!


I'm so glad that you can back us up on the co-sleeping issue. Everyone in my life who we've mentioned it to thinks we're nuts. But I feel just the same way you do. It's easier to breastfeed, it promotes bonding, and it's a lot easier to get the child back to sleep...without ever leaving the comfort of the bedroom or even the bed! But mostly I love the bonding. Just because it's night time doesn't mean we have to sever family ties!!

If I didn't know better your pictures look alot like me and my first son Bobby. I had to do a double take here. He was just a blond as I was dark. I also started out at 110 and ended up at 142...pretty much the same with all three.


That's amazing. We sound similar in those respects. Now wouldn't it be wonderful if I could raise up my kids to be as bright and promising as yours are! I really do worry every second of every day...will my son end up in a penitentiary by the age of 5? Haha...sometimes it's not too hard to picture!

But yes, isn't it weird how a parent with such dark hair could have such a blonde child? That happened to you too, eh? I've always thought blonde children are so gorgeous, but never imagined I could possibly have one. I call him my "Arian Child." hehe

If you continue like me you'll end up with another boy, but this one will be a dark headed one with a totally different temperment.....exact opposite of the first.


Ooh, an opposite temperament might be a welcome relief. I'm always racking my brain wondering if I was responsible for forming his self-indulged, overly-opinionated, picky, tantrumy personality, or if he would have turned out that way anyhow. I'd welcome a sweet, quiet, unopinionated child after this one, for sure.

I was told to introduce veggies first before the fruits came in. I have a picture of feeding my one month old Gerber peas with green all over his face and loving it. Maybe that's why my kids did okay with the veggies.
Yes, we were instructed to do that too (at about 6-9 months though). After several months of wasting jar upon jar of veggies, and wasted steamed peas and everything else, I started freaking out, thinking, "Well, he's got to eat SOMETHING besides breast milk & formula," so we went ahead with the sweet potatoes & fruits. We were just glad to have him eat SOMETHING. So that's where it all started.

I'm glad your boys had no qualms with the veggies though.

The meat was more of a tough sell for us.


Funny you should mention that. My son LOVES meat. I have no idea why. Hot dogs, sausage links, sausage patties, deli meats, pepperonis. Mangia!! I don't eat much meat at all, so he must take after his dad.

I've read about Elimination Communication. It basically amounts to toilet-training the adult instead of the child as infants do not physically have control of their bowels. I wouldn't have time for it, but I do hope it works out well for you.


So that's what it's called? Yes, someone else told me the same thing about that method of potty training being nothing more than "training the parents." Yeah, I kinda wonder if I'll be able to handle it. My SIL was doing it with her first and only child, so I think that might have made it a bit easier than what I'm considering embarking on...balancing an already needy toddler with potty training a newborn every single hour for two solid years. Yeah it sounds preposterous but I'll at least give it a try. When it makes me nuts I'll letcha know

Also, a great way to introduce healthy veggies is with breastfeeding. Baby gets a taste for all the good things in mommy's diet from early on and learns to appreciate lots of different tastes.


Then I'll have to practice what I preach?! Oh dear. Yes, that's likely where I went wrong the first time. So if I have to start getting serious about eating veggies I'll have to take beano or something. Veggies mess with my tummy. But we'll all be happier for it in the long run Thanks for reminding me of the breastmilk connection.

I like your blue blouse. You dress really well. See, I'm clothing-impaired. As I go about my days, I can't help but to dress like a bag lady because I just don't feel pretty at all. (That black unitard doesn't last long on me...just a few minutes here & there every few weeks.) I just want to be comfy, y'know? But dressing like a bag lady makes me FEEL like a bag lady...then there goes my self-esteem ::

Well if you're at 32 weeks and so am I, then we are just about identically pregnant after all.

(Now if my dear friend "Arlya" chimes in we can all compare notes because she's progressing right alongside us too )
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I think you look great Angela! I love the second pic of your boy and you. Of course gaining the pregnancy weight is going to weigh heavily on you, for one, you are tiny, and two you're a woman. Women notice a extra 2-5lbs on themselves, where men generally don't notice until its balloned much further than that. Maybe its society, I dunno. I'm not going to do the whole "You think you're big? Look at me!" thing because that doesn't make ANYONE feel good.

I, too, can't wait to have this baby. She's really wearing me out lately and is already head down, so that causes plenty of pelvic pain. Not to mention the fun of having wee feet in your ribcage. I kinda hope you have a little girl like me so we can be in the same boat again, hehe.

I agree with you in the aspect that basically our first is our practice or learning child. The next one, I feel like my hubby and I will do better on. For one, I'm really going to try hard to breastfeed this time. Which should be helped by not giving him bottles and pacifiers at the same time, like we did with our first. And, I'm going to lay her different ways when she gets into her crib, as well as giving her plenty of tummy time even if she hates it, so she won't end up with the whole flattened head thing our boy went through. We've taught our boys so many things, but often we fail to remember how much they've taught us over the past 3 years. It's live and learn really.
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But of course there are huge joys. I experience them every day. I love my little dude that we already have. He's made me a better person. And he sure is neat


It's my contention that one is never really a whole person until you have your own child.

Congratulations on a great looking boy, and for the one on the way
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Oh, I forgot to mention, I've heard from person upon person that those wipe warmers are a total waste of money. The wipe gets cold as soon as it hits the air supposedly. That and diaper genies seem to be the thing most regret buying for their new babies.
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I'm not going to do the whole "You think you're big? Look at me!" thing because that doesn't make ANYONE feel good.


Comparisons aren't necessary, but I'd love to see you. You know how much you love taking pictures!

I kinda hope you have a little girl like me so we can be in the same boat again, hehe.


Yes, that would be so amazing. I swear you & I are twins, half a generation apart.

I agree with you in the aspect that basically our first is our practice or learning child.


Haha! Yup, the first child is like a crash test dummy. But unlike crash test dummies, our firstborns get plenty of love and cuddles along the way. And they don't get smashed up (too much -hehe).

often we fail to remember how much they've taught us over the past 3 years.


So true. They keep us from being selfish, teach us to be honest and all those noble qualities. It's been so hard for me, but he's whipping me into a better person one painful lesson at a time

those wipe warmers are a total waste of money.


Ooh thanks for the heads-up. Hmm...then I wonder how the heck we can warm those suckers up? I know I'd hate to have my bare patootie out in the wintertime accosted by a cold wet wipe.

It's my contention that one is never really a whole person until you have your own child.


Yeah, it's a hard, lifelong lesson, but that's so true. One hasn't experienced the true meaning of life until being given charge of a little person to love and protect and nurture 24/7 through thick & thin. It's especially hard when it's the last thing you thought you ever wanted to do...but then gradually find all the joy in it. What a sweet transformation.
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You look wonderful Angela. And being able to stand on your toes and not falling over! Woot! Good on ya! I'm not pregnant and still can't do that one!
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I commented before, but apparently it's not here! Argh. Anyway, you lok great. (better than I do right now....and I'm not preggers)

those wipe warmers are a total waste of money.

Actually, they are nice. We got one as a gift with boy. But you have to add extra water because the bottom layer dries out from the heat and turns brown. If you aren't into that the other option is buy a bunch of washclothes (all white so you can bleach them) and do the same thing that you would do if you were using all-cloth. (you can warm them up first) After using them, you rinse them off and dump them in a bucket of diluted bleach till you wash them. Personnally, I wouldn't cause I hate mess and ick. but if you are brave enough to toilet train now....they you might be able to hack it.