Are you married?

from JoeUser Forums
I'm married. Been married for three years now. This is my second. The first one didn't work out due to the usual financial issues. I said I'd never get divorced, but the guy lost it when his mom died and I came home one day to find $25k in cc debt. Surprise, Surprise!

How about you?
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
Yes, coming up on 4 years this november.
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
Yes, 19 years in October...I think.

(I always get our total marriage time mixed up with another important life event...heh. They are only a year apart and well....I suck at remembering dates. I still have to write my anniversary on the calendar or I forget it.)
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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
19 years


Congrats!

....I suck at remembering dates.


haa haa! Me too. My husband is actually the one that remembers all the firsts!
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
Will be 10 years on December 31, 2006. It's hard to believ after the first coupe of years that we have made it this long but it is easy to see why. We belong together. No one else would have us.
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
My husband is actually the one that remembers all the firsts!


Mine too!

And when he forgets it'll be a month or so gone and one of us will be like, "Um did we forget.....?"

Yup!
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top

Yes.  We've been together 13  years and have been married for 12.

Like JJ, we're meant to be together.  Nobody else would have us, either.  

Seriously, we love each other, and whilst working at a marriage can be difficult sometimes it's the most rewarding things I've ever done.

Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
Let's see ... we've been together for almost 15 years now and married for almost 12. Sometimes it feels like it CAN'T be that long but on other days ... She completes me so well, it feels like she's always been there.
Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
I am not married but am engaged. This will be my first (and hopefully last).
Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top
I am not married but am engaged.


Congrats!
Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top
My first ended when my wife of 2 months chose her extramarital-boyfriend over me. I'd like to say that Iwas young and impetuous, but truth is I was 30 and I'd been with her 6 years.

I've chronicled my second marriage extensively on my blog. It is the best decision I ever made. It'll be four years in November.
Reply #11 from JoeUser Forums Top
My husband and I have been together for 23 years, 14 of which as a married couple.
Reply #12 from JoeUser Forums Top
We're working on our 25th next Valentine's Day. How sappy is that? We dated a year before that so we've been together almost 26 years.

When I got married I said it was for life and I meant it...even in the not so good times in the beginning I knew I was in for life. It was worth sticking thru and we are very happily married.
Reply #13 from JoeUser Forums Top
I also have a feeling that you have NO CLUE how bad the bad times can get for some of us.


well you'd be right. I've never claimed that my life was as bad as yours LW. Why do you so like to antaganize? We all go thru hard times in marriage. Some harder than others.

Bet you'd change your mind pretty quickly if he started kicking your face in every friday night after a case of beer and a months rent worth of cocaine.


you're right again. I would. The difference between you and me? I never would have married him in the first place. Are you telling me you saw no red flags beforehand?

I'm really sorry to hear this happen to you but again, did He drag you to the altar?
Reply #14 from JoeUser Forums Top
Not married, planning on not getting married, rather a free union like my parents who've been together for 27 years and only married at the municipality after 17 years together for paperwork purposes. Now thats what i call tru love
Reply #15 from JoeUser Forums Top
Not married, planning on not getting married, rather a free union like my parents who've been together for 27 years and only married at the municipality after 17 years together for paperwork purposes. Now thats what i call true love
Reply #16 from JoeUser Forums Top
I'm not legally married. Been with my childrens mother for 9 years now. Like Island_gurl's parents, we to will married simply to have the papers and to stop people from asking why we not married. Our relationship has not been the best, she cheated a few times during the first years, but for the sake of my children we decided to work it out and it is getting better. We, well, she has a long way to go, but I'm patient and as long as I see the effort I'm willing to keep on. I love her a lot and I love my kids and for them I'll do anything. But if things go wrong again, no more.

BTW, it's not that hard to remember our first kiss and day we began our ralationship, It was the same day as my 21st Birthday.
Reply #17 from JoeUser Forums Top
I resent the implication that those of us who have been married more than once didnt 'mean it' and bailed out due to 'not so good' times, and can almost hear the snotty, condescending, 'Im better than you' tone of voice you would utter something like this in.


I can hear it too.

The difference between you and me? I never would have married him in the first place.


Actually, I've always thought that the difference between the two of you is that LW doesn't think she's one of god's chosen people and she doesn't crow about how god rewards her for this and that and the other and how she's so holy and her family is holy. She doesn't put herself on a pedestal and gaze down on the rest of us sinners.

When you put yourself on a pedestal, KFC, you'd better be aware that there will always be someone waiting for an opportunity to push you off - and to rejoice in your falling. You may not think that you do this, but you do. All the time.

As far as I'm concerned, we're all sinners. ALL OF US.
Reply #18 from JoeUser Forums Top
you'd better be aware that there will always be someone waiting for an opportunity to push you off - and to rejoice in your falling.


No matter what someone thinks or says I'm hardly every happy when they have a fall.
Reply #19 from JoeUser Forums Top
I've been married for 8.5 years and "with" my husband for 10, heh, and I'm only 27. We started early.
Reply #20 from JoeUser Forums Top
TW we be the same age. And I am only engaged
Reply #21 from JoeUser Forums Top
Better get crackin', then. Babies don't make themselves! (I've got 2.5 to your 0!)
Reply #22 from JoeUser Forums Top
After my experiences with my first husband I find it difficult to accept the concept of "always and forever." Unfortunately people often change for the worse. And just as often they can't see it in themselves. I love my husband dearly and am committed to him but I'm not always convinced that we'll be together forever. There could be a mutual split at some time.
Reply #23 from JoeUser Forums Top
I agree, Question.

Nothing is certain, really.
Reply #24 from JoeUser Forums Top
quit havin babies. The world have enough. Take care of the ones who need parents and STOP BEING FUCKING SELFISH!

Trinitie (2.5 babies...*rolls eyes*)
Reply #25 from JoeUser Forums Top
(I've got 2.5 to your 0!)


Oh do we have a bun in the oven as we speak?