WHY? Damn it! WHY do women do this?

Maybe someone can tell me why.

from JoeUser Forums

 OK lets start off with men are wired differently than women are, this is neither bad nor good, it just is the truth.

Now, A woman complains about something, be it the floor that has a stain that will not come out, or  the dishes are to high for them to reach them, whatever the complaint is men HEAR, HELP ME, even if the woman does not want help, that is what men hear.. help me, fix this!, make this better!.

Now women for the most part, as least the women that are aware know this, yet they {the independant ones} complain when we drop everything to rush to their rescue!

Why? Knowing that if you women say something, your man wants to fix it, complain? why? why ?

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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
I think it's because women are communicators. They just want to express themselves and for us to listen.

At least I'm pretty sure that's what I was told. I can't be positive because I wasn't listening.
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top

Reply By: MasonMPosted: Sunday, August 06, 2006
I think it's because women are communicators. They just want to express themselves and for us to listen.

At least I'm pretty sure that's what I was told. I can't be positive because I wasn't listening.

oH god!! THE END OF THIS CAUGHT ME OFF GUARD,,I SHOT COFFEE THROUGH my nose.. Curse you mason!!

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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
WHY do we do tis?? UMMMMM BECAUSE WE CAN??
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
I SHOT COFFEE THROUGH my nose.. Curse you mason!!


My work is done.
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
#3 by Gimpyone
Sun, August 06, 2006 2:54 PM


WHY do we do tis?? UMMMMM BECAUSE WE CAN??


yer such a shit michele! and I love you.
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
That's the truth though. Women are wired differently. The problem is not the real issue for them. Their feelings about the problem is the issue. So you can keep expecting this kind of thing to happen. ( I read about this in a book written by men, so I didn't have to listen to a woman to learn it)
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
#7 by little-whip
Sun, August 06, 2006 3:18 PM


Sometimes we're just venting, not expecting you to solve our problem *for* us.


I have learned this, BUT!!!! we are wired to want to fix things for you. Nothing will change that, we have our mothers to thank for that! THANX MOM!!
Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
#6 by Jythier
Sun, August 06, 2006 3:15 PM


That's the truth though. Women are wired differently. The problem is not the real issue for them. Their feelings about the problem is the issue. So you can keep expecting this kind of thing to happen. ( I read about this in a book written by men, so I didn't have to listen to a woman to learn it)


good explaination, colleen says it is all about how she feels about me running to "rescue" her when she is just venting, as littlewhip pointed out.
Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top
OK lets start off with men are wired differently than women are,


...and we're plumbed different too!
Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top
10 by Shovelheat
Sun, August 06, 2006 4:34 PM


OK lets start off with men are wired differently than women are,


...and we're plumbed different too!


we are?
Reply #11 from JoeUser Forums Top
#11 by little-whip
Sun, August 06, 2006 5:22 PM


thank god.


YOU ARE WELCOME!
Reply #12 from JoeUser Forums Top
We vent to people we care about because we hope they will listen and love us anyway!

Then promptly forget about it when we've decided its no longer venting worthy.

All vents should start with "No action is required on your part aside from listening."

I try to say something along those lines when I need to talk with my hubby. His whole posture relaxes!
Reply #13 from JoeUser Forums Top
I wouldn't know anything about women doing this. I learned a long time ago to just tune out everything they say. The punishment for failing to listen to them is always the same and even when you do "hear them" you are always guilty of "not listening" to them.

The female mind is the most fickle thing ever invented, so why even try to understand it?
Reply #14 from JoeUser Forums Top
Yeah...I'll have to agree with the other comments up there. It seems women just like to vent or as I've heard it put, "Go through the journey of communication and discovery" whereas us men, well, we want to FIX it and then stop worrying.

I don't know...I just try not to make them mad...that's all I can do.

~Zoo
Reply #15 from JoeUser Forums Top
Simple, MM.  We are not allowed to understand them, as if we did, then we would still be in Eden, and not have sinned against God.  God dictated a certain time of the month for women, and men's punishment was to live with them during said time.
Reply #16 from JoeUser Forums Top

Reply By: Tova7Posted: Sunday, August 06, 2006
We vent to people we care about because we hope they will listen and love us anyway!

Then promptly forget about it when we've decided its no longer venting worthy.

All vents should start with "No action is required on your part aside from listening."

I try to say something along those lines when I need to talk with my hubby. His whole posture relaxes!

I am going to show this one to colleen maybe she can start with that sentence and that will disarm my desire to want to help.

Reply #17 from JoeUser Forums Top

The female mind is the most fickle thing ever invented, so why even try to understand it?
Reply By: terpfan1980Posted: Sunday, August 06, 2006

 

ain't you the brave man? I would expect some ladies to tear your head off for this one.

Reply #18 from JoeUser Forums Top

Reply By: Zoologist03Posted: Sunday, August 06, 2006
Yeah...I'll have to agree with the other comments up there. It seems women just like to vent or as I've heard it put, "Go through the journey of communication and discovery" whereas us men, well, we want to FIX it and then stop worrying.

I don't know...I just try not to make them mad...that's all I can do.

I do my best to never piss a woman off, they can be hazardous to mens health when angry.

Reply #19 from JoeUser Forums Top
I do my best to never piss a woman off,


too late.....

they can be hazardous to mens health when angry


you betcha!! That's what we live for.
Reply #20 from JoeUser Forums Top
The bottom line boils down to this. Men need to know that they are loved and hate to be disrespected. Women need to FEEL that they are loved.

Just as we men automatically think. Oh need to fix something and we have this record going over and over in our brains majority of women have the "Does he love me?" record going over and over and over in their brains. Where women differ from other women is how they recognize love from us guys. Without the women in question saying how, we men will fail at said question because we suck at taking hints.

Just my thoughts.
Reply #21 from JoeUser Forums Top
Oh, the woes of inter-sex communication. I still don't pretend to understand. My best defence is to plead complete ignorance and hope they forgive me.
Reply #22 from JoeUser Forums Top
Women expect men to know what they're thinking, no matter what. YOU being the spouse, boyfriend, etc., are supposed to be tuned-in to her emotions, no matter what.

That means you're supposed to know whether she's just mad at the world, you or just want some alone time. And Elie, sometimes she might just be wondering why did she even have to say something before you fix it!
Reply #23 from JoeUser Forums Top

Reply By: KFC (Kickin For Christ)Posted: Sunday, August 06, 2006
I do my best to never piss a woman off,


too late.....

 

have I angered you, and if so what did I do?

Reply #24 from JoeUser Forums Top

Reply By: Adventure-DudePosted: Sunday, August 06, 2006
The bottom line boils down to this. Men need to know that they are loved and hate to be disrespected. Women need to FEEL that they are loved.

Just as we men automatically think. Oh need to fix something and we have this record going over and over in our brains majority of women have the "Does he love me?" record going over and over and over in their brains.

 

I would like to have some women chime in on this.

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Reply By: Adventure-DudePosted: Sunday, August 06, 2006
The bottom line boils down to this. Men need to know that they are loved and hate to be disrespected. Women need to FEEL that they are loved.

Just as we men automatically think. Oh need to fix something and we have this record going over and over in our brains majority of women have the "Does he love me?" record going over and over and over in their brains.



I would like to have some women chime in on this.


They don't want to give away their secrets.