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I was chatting to an online friend the other day. He was having some difficulties in his relationship with his girlfriend. I think they've been together for about a year now.

So I asked what was wrong. And he said that she was bitching about lots of things, complaining alot, basically being a pain. So I laughed a little and said WE'RE ALL A PAIN mate! So I asked what was he gonna do about it.

And his answer was the wisest thing he ever said (meaning most of the time he likes to talk like a jackass, lol, but thats why i love him to bits): "I'm not gonna let her bad mood get me. You know Em, it doesnt matter what relationship we're talking about, no matter who is in your life, make sure YOU are happy". Wasnt his exact words, but thats what it meant.

And I was wowed, really. I thought about it alot and DANG, realized that yeah he was right.

So lately I've noticed that I was happier and happier no matter what i did. I started not to miss D so much. And I'm really enjoying life and whatever it brings. My parents are always in a good mood, so that helps a lot too. There is always a light atmosphere, and if there isnt, well I try by all means to make it light. And if it doesnt work I go into my happy bubble.

So if you're in a bad mood suit yourself, I will listen if you need to ramble. But it's not gonna make me mad. Not anymore, I wont join in the bad moodness. You go ahead and feel down and call me selfish all you like.

Life's too short, I dont wanna waste it by being unhappy because of someone else.

So there. ;)
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
True selfishness is wanting people to live their lives the way you see fit, Em. Yeah, you gotta protect yourself from people and all that, but the bottom line is just let people be the way they choose to be and go your own way. It rains on the just and the unjust alike ya know, so the nature of the rain is the same so be happy, girl!
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
Dammit! Quit trying to ruin my mad! Just kiddin' I hope your positive outlook stays for a good while. It is always nicer to go through life happy
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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
I agree with this completely. Grumpy people can bring you down.

There was a bit in Sex in the City where Carrie was having problems with Burgher. She was all sad and mopey and Samantha said that the key to a good relationship is whether it makes you like this (big smile) or that (all sad and mopey). I know all relationships have their up and downs but I agree smiling is better.

I know it sounds trite and cliche but keeping a gratitude journal really helped me. Basically you list three things that you are thankful for that day, it can be something big or something little but it does help you to focus on the good things and not the bad.
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top

good reading here loca! 

The thing about deciding how we're going to feel about something, or another person's bad mood is that it makes us aware, eventually, that maybe we do or don't want the continually grump in our lives.....

it's, IMHO, not even a little bit healthy to be around someone who's negative on a daily basis.

Cookies for loca!  very insightful article!

Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
Joe:
True selfishness is wanting people to live their lives the way you see fit, Em.

You're right, i suppose selfish wasnt the right word there!
Yeah, you gotta protect yourself from people and all that, but the bottom line is just let people be the way they choose to be and go your own way. It rains on the just and the unjust alike ya know, so the nature of the rain is the same so be happy, girl!
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
Sorry i have to go now, but i'll reply to the other comments as soon as i come back!!! Cheers for now, and lots of love to everyone! xxooxox
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top

Well, late and trite.  But Live your life the way you want to.  Not how others want you to.

All have said the same.  It is good you have now realized it.

Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
My default state is: Happy
Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top
terpfan:
Dammit! Quit trying to ruin my mad!

Sorry, I have to go away to be happy, lol!
Just kiddin' I hope your positive outlook stays for a good while. It is always nicer to go through life happy

Yup! I hope it stays for as long as possible.

Locamama:
I know it sounds trite and cliche but keeping a gratitude journal really helped me. Basically you list three things that you are thankful for that day, it can be something big or something little but it does help you to focus on the good things and not the bad.

That's a great idea! Thanks for the advise!

Trudy:
The thing about deciding how we're going to feel about something, or another person's bad mood is that it makes us aware, eventually, that maybe we do or don't want the continually grump in our lives.....

it's, IMHO, not even a little bit healthy to be around someone who's negative on a daily basis

Exactly, I understand that we can have our 'down' moments, who doesnt? But being down everyday is just sick, and it spreads. I have a friend who will never light up, and i just quit trying to brighten up her day. If she's not willing to be happy, I cant do anything for her.



Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top
Well, late and trite. But Live your life the way you want to. Not how others want you to.

Uh-huh!

All have said the same. It is good you have now realized it.

Yes its a good thing

Maso:
My default state is: Happy

Coooool stuff! I should review my settings too, lol!
Reply #11 from JoeUser Forums Top
I have to admit I can be a grumpy sod at times. I go from hyperactive to miserable arse. There is no middle ground with me, haha!

Good on ya though Em, don't let people like me bring you down, we get over it faster if you ignore us anyway! Hehe!

I'm going to make an extra special effort to smile today, spread the goodness..... <---me (from....NOW) Haha..
Reply #12 from JoeUser Forums Top
I have to admit I can be a grumpy sod at times. I go from hyperactive to miserable arse. There is no middle ground with me, haha!

Aww, it's ok, we all have are ups and down. What i wont buy anymore is those who only have downs. But you're ok my angel partner

I'm going to make an extra special effort to smile today, spread the goodness..... <---me (from....NOW) Haha..

Yay! Good girl!!
Reply #13 from JoeUser Forums Top
I'm grumpy at times too.

This is a good way to be, no matter how grumpy eveyrone is, you be happy! We women just need to take a page from our men's book and not take things so seiously eh?! The only thing is, if we don't, nothing gets taken care of!!
Reply #14 from JoeUser Forums Top
We women just need to take a page from our men's book and not take things so seiously eh?! The only thing is, if we don't, nothing gets taken care of!

Hahaha! So true! But being responsible doesnt mean we cant be happy